{"id":2262,"date":"2022-01-14T12:30:00","date_gmt":"2022-01-14T12:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thrive-coaching.biz\/test.thrive-coaching.biz\/?p=2262"},"modified":"2022-01-17T09:03:26","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T09:03:26","slug":"thought-for-the-week-owning-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thrive-coaching.biz\/test.thrive-coaching.biz\/2022\/01\/14\/thought-for-the-week-owning-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Thought for the Week \u2013 Owning it!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Last week\u2019s Thought for the Week was about \u201cThat is a Great Question\u201d which I hope you found thought and question-provoking!<\/p>\n

Share your thoughts too.<\/p>\n

We know that asking great questions helps us and others to understand better, and also enables us to understand ourselves. And there’s a real science to asking great questions.<\/p>\n

The thing is, how can we ask a very powerful and thought-provoking question if first we don\u2019t listen?<\/p>\n

If we want to feel empowered and be taken seriously, another very important factor is \u2013 and you are probably already doing this, even if you don\u2019t realise it \u2013 is \u201c\u201dOwning it!!<\/p>\n

I learned this one when I was much shyer than I am now. I realised that I was playing safe and resisting holding my head above the parapet because it seemed safer to go with the opinions of others, rather than voice my own.<\/p>\n

Hmmm \u2026. that was a real biggie when I stepped out of my comfort zone there for the first time! But it was a momentous lightbulb moment for me.<\/p>\n

Suddenly, people wanted to hear what I had to say! They were interested and I felt so much more empowered to stand in my own space and that\u2019s when I took the plunge and started my own business.<\/p>\n

This may seem hard to believe – I used to be shy!<\/p>\n

Despite my shyness (and overcoming my fear of speaking in front of people), I had been training people world-wide for British Airways on communication skills, assertiveness, leadership, customer service, wellbeing etc.<\/p>\n

And one of the key tools I covered in most of these programmes was \u2026<\/p>\n

The \u201cI\u201d Statement!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You may well have heard this and before I go into it, I want to first ask you a question:<\/p>\n

How do you feel when another person starts a sentence with \u201cYou \u2026\u2026\u201d?<\/p>\n

For instance;<\/p>\n

\u201cYou forgot to do that\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cYou always do that\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Do you immediately feel like you have a bull\u2019s eye attached to your forehead?<\/p>\n

Like you have to be on the defensive?<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s where the \u201cI\u201d Statement comes in.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s all about intentionally<\/em> starting our sentences with \u201cI\u201d and owning it!<\/p>\n

For instance;<\/p>\n

\u201cI thought the seminar went well because \u2026.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m feeling uneasy about that option\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI would prefer it\u2019s done this way\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

“I’m going to have to say no”<\/em><\/p>\n

What\u2019s the difference between that and starting sentences with \u201cYou \u2026.\u201d?<\/p>\n