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Last week\u2019s Thought for the Week, was about \u201cFeedback on Feedback<\/em>\u201d- I hope you found that useful and thought-provoking. It would be great to hear from you if you have any comments.<\/p>\n [You can find previous posts here in my blog.]<\/p>\n I shared how receiving great developmental feedback has been transformational for me and also for the people I work with who also use this model of feedback.<\/p>\n I delivered a one-day training course yesterday; \u201cEffective and Assertive Communication\u201d and demonstrated this feedback model with one of the participants who was feeling stuck with something. They were all surprised to witness how she became unstuck when she received Coaching using the feedback model I shared last week.<\/p>\n The week before, I wrote about \u201cSelf-Worth\u201d and this came into play in this scenario to. This lady was able to recognise that within herself and how it had been holding her back since a life event six years before. She committed to herself to take the first step towards becoming unstuck and reaching her goal.<\/p>\n And this is the piece that is so often missing from feedback conversations. It is so inspiring when someone decides they are going to take action to achieve something. And then what happens?<\/p>\n So, what leads us to take action and be self-accountable? Because that\u2019s what it really boils down to isn\u2019t it!<\/p>\n And if we are emotionally attached to whatever it is we want to achieve, then we have the incentive and will to take action.<\/p>\n So, at the end of a conversation where someone decides they are going to take action, how can we support them?<\/p>\n Firstly, they have to have that emotional connection to their goal, it has to be something they<\/em> want (not just to please someone else) and they have to have the WILL to move forward.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like when someone decides to give up smoking. It won\u2019t work unless they<\/em> decide to quit, right? They have to have the will to follow through with it.<\/p>\n I use a Coaching model where \u201cWill\u201d is usually where we finish that session. I might ask that person something like;<\/p>\n \u201cSo, after considering what has been holding you back, you have decided to apply for that new role because it will challenge you. When will<\/u><\/em> you complete the application?\u201d<\/p>\n They may say something like: \u201cWell, I will try to do it this evening\u201d [Try?]<\/p>\n So, I may then ask something like; \u201cOn a scale of 1-10 (10 being high) how committed are you to do it this evening?\u201d<\/p>\n They may say something like; \u201c I guess an 8\u201d<\/p>\n To which I would reply;<\/p>\n \u201cWhat would make it a 10, so you know that this<\/u> is what you are going to do when you get home?\u201d<\/p>\n This is where they realise how likely they are to do that when they get home.<\/p>\n And that\u2019s what it\u2019s all about \u2013 them<\/u><\/em> knowing how much they want this and how much will<\/u><\/em> they have to follow through.<\/p>\n And if this applies to you, you know what to do!<\/p>\n \u201cIf you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t,\u00a0<\/strong>you’ll find an excuse.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n -Jim Rohn-<\/span><\/p>\n ENTREPRENEUR, AUTHOR, MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER<\/p>\n As always, I will leave you with that thought.<\/p>\n And why not book a complimentary consultation where we can discuss how you can become a more effective communicator. You can choose a slot HERE<\/strong><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n With best wishes for your success!<\/p>\n\n