{"id":3214,"date":"2023-02-06T17:19:23","date_gmt":"2023-02-06T17:19:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thrive-coaching.biz\/test.thrive-coaching.biz\/?p=3214"},"modified":"2023-02-06T17:21:00","modified_gmt":"2023-02-06T17:21:00","slug":"thought-for-the-week-the-acceptance-dilemma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thrive-coaching.biz\/test.thrive-coaching.biz\/2023\/02\/06\/thought-for-the-week-the-acceptance-dilemma\/","title":{"rendered":"Thought for the Week \u2013 The Acceptance Dilemma"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Last week’s Thought for the Week was; \u201cThe Balance of Thanks<\/em>\u201d which was about how<\/em> we show our thanks and appreciation.<\/p>\n

You can see all of my previous blogs HERE<\/a><\/p>\n

Last week, I left you with this quote \u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/span>
\n– Maya Angelou \u2013<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

[World-renowned author best known for her unique and pioneering autobiographical writing style]<\/p>\n

So, following on from last week, I have been giving a lot of thought around how we accept gratefully<\/em>, i.e., appreciation from others, gifts and compliments etc!<\/p>\n

For example; when someone thanks us verbally, in a genuine way, for something we have done for them, we can tell that they really do appreciate it. We will feel happy they are happy and will probably respond with a simple \u201cYou\u2019re welcome\u201d or similar.<\/p>\n

That will feel right for many, but not for everyone (for instance; many more tend to be more reserved and \/ or less confident and may even feel embarrassed in situations like that – even if they are happy the other person is happy!)<\/p>\n

Going back to my 20\u2019s (a long time ago now and my memory still serves me well!) I used to feel embarrassed when someone gave me a compliment. It\u2019s only when I trained to be a counsellor that I realised that a compliment is actually a gift<\/em>. People take the time and trouble to pay us a compliment and they don\u2019t have to!<\/p>\n

In fact, as we get busier and busier in our daily lives, people often forget to give compliments and show appreciation, even if they intended to.<\/p>\n

So, it can be quite rare to receive a compliment, or for someone to go out of their way to show their gratitude and appreciation. And that is a real gift<\/u><\/em> and also needs to be accepted with gratitude.<\/p>\n

If someone gives us a physical gift, it\u2019s unlikely we would give it back or cast it aside in front of them, so why would we do that with a compliment?<\/p>\n

\u201cAccepting a compliment isn’t a violation of humility. It\u2019s an expression of gratitude for an act of kindness.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Deflecting undermines the gesture\u2014and discourages them from praising others. Even if you’re struggling to believe it, saying thanks shows that you value their words\u201d.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

-Adam Grant-<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

[Organizational psychologist and bestselling author\u00a0who explores the science of motivation, generosity, original thinking, and rethinking. Adam Grant has been Wharton’s top-rated professor for 7 straight years]<\/p>\n