This week, let’s go one layer deeper:
What happens when we truly listen – not just with our ears, but with our full attention, presence, and even intuition?
This shift invites us into a more grounded, attuned way of being with each other. One that fosters trust, empathy, and new possibilities.
Many of us have been taught to listen with the goal of responding rather than understanding. This approach to communication often limits the depth and possibilities of our interactions.
Sensing goes beyond hearing words. It’s about tuning into:
- What’s not being said.
- The emotion under the surface.
- The patterns and energy of the conversation.
- What’s trying to emerge between you.
This kind of deep listening builds trust and nurtures a space where new insights – and even transformation – can take root.
Try this shift in conversation:
Instead of Listening to Reply: e.g., “I see what you’re saying, but here’s what I think…”
Try Listening to Connect: e.g., “That’s an interesting perspective – can you tell me more, so I fully understand where you’re coming from?”
Sensing invites us to pause – to be still enough to notice what’s not being said. It opens up a space where empathy, intuition, and innovation can come alive.
Here are some ‘Sensing Practices’ to try:
- Pause before responding! This lets silence do some of the work. (Yes, many of us can be uncomfortable with silences and this is usually why we feel the pressure to fill those silences right)?
Yet, when we do that, rather than allowing the natural flow to evolve, this disconnects us.
- Ask yourself: “What’s not being said?” to invite hidden insights.
- Notice your own inner response: What do you feel in your body as the other person speaks? Notice what comes up for you and trust this.
- Reflect what you’re sensing: “It sounds like this really matters to you…”
- Notice tone and pacing:Usually, how someone speaks tells us more than what they say.
- Ask for clarification: e.g., “What feels most important here?”
Why does it matter to ‘sense to understand and connect’?
Our interactions thrive on deep connection, mutual understanding, and emergent insight. When we practice sensing, we move from transactional exchanges to transformational conversations. We stop trying to contrail and drive outcomes and begin to be in flow with what’s unfolding.
“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood.”
– Ralph Nichols –
[Dr. Nichols was a pioneer in drawing attention to both the importance and scientific understanding of developing proficient listening skills]
This week, I invite you to try one moment of “sensing instead of solving.” Notice what shifts.
Wishing you a week of deeply connected conversations,
With warmest wishes,
Korinne Le Page
Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering You to Thrive!
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