Last time, we explored “The Invisible Communicator”. This was about how many professionals can feel unseen, unheard, even when they’re saying all the right things. Often, the issue isn’t about you, it’s how others have been conditioned to hear (or ‘unhear’) your voice. If you missed it, you can catch up here
As we constantly develop and evolve, here are some of the shifts we have to navigate along the way:
- What happens when you start showing up differently?
- You start saying “no” to things that no longer fit or overstretch you.
- You say what you mean.
- You drop the ‘qualifiers’, the ‘softeners’, the over-explaining.
And suddenly, the dynamic changes. You might notice:
– Raised eyebrows
– Subtle resistance
– Silence or guilt trips
– Or even your own moment of self-doubt
It can feel unsettling – it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong though.
People get used to a version of you that makes them comfortable – not necessarily the version that reflects who you are now.
If you’ve always been the reliable yes-sayer, the fixer, the one who keeps the peace – then becoming more direct and having firmer boundaries will feel unfamiliar to them. And maybe even to you.
Here’s what’s important to remember:
That’s their adjustment to make. Not yours.
Yes, if we have been conditioned not to upset anyone, then this will feel uncomfortable – at first. Here’s the thing …
Clarity creates discomfort – before it creates respect.
So, if you’ve recently started owning your voice more clearly – and things feel a bit off – it might just mean that you’re disrupting old dynamics and narratives.
You’re not losing your voice – you are using it! You have discovered that it is much easier and less stressful using it in an authentic way.
A few reflections for this week:
I invite you to ask yourself:
- Who am I showing up differently for – and how can I reintroduce myself?
- Where am I being pulled to shrink back into old roles for the sake of harmony?
- Can I hold my ground while others adjust?
You’ve done enough adapting – you are choosing to remain calm, respectful and assertive in all of your conversations. Let them adjust.
“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
– Wayne Dyer –
With quiet strength and warmest wishes,
Korinne Le Page
Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering You to Thrive!
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