Thought for the Week – What have Expectations Got to do With Anything?

So, last week’s Thought for the Week, was about “Authenticity and Best Kept Secrets” and I hope you found that thought-provoking! [You can find previous posts below].

Being comfortable with, and being who we truly are,  is something people have either mastered or they really struggle with. I used to be more of a “people-pleaser” until I realised my true worth and that people actually wanted to hear what I really thought about things!

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are!

“Brene Brown-

I said to participants yesterday on The Communication Code Group Coaching Programme with me that I am very humbled by their progress and privileged to be able to facilitate and be part of their transformations because they are becoming who they really are.

They are experimenting and at times feel they are taking risks. And I recognise that they are doing the hard work in between our sessions and that’s why they are seeing the progress they are making week-by-week.

And another real light-bulb moment is when we learn about EXPECTATIONS.

We can set ourselves up for disappointment over and over again because of our expectations of others. Because we have certain values and beliefs, we could automatically expect others to have the same and behave accordingly.

Then when people find they don’t, they are disappointed, or might even blame the other person because of our own expectations!

“People can’t live up to the expectations they don’t know have been set for them”

-Rory Vaden-

Once we realise that our expectations are built around people and things external to us, everything changes. We become more self-aware, confident, and less reliant on others for our happiness, satisfaction and self-worth.

We don’t need others to validate us! If we always look to others to confirm that we’re doing the right thing, are a good person etc., who is really in control of our lives?

We are in the driving seat of our own life and that’s how it should be. We want to be who we really are, live by our own values, be around other like-minded people and live our lives authentically.

“When you are authentic, you create a certain energy, people want to be around you because you are unique”.

-Andie MacDowell-

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

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With best wishes for your success!

Korinne

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