Thought for the Week – Owning it!

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “That is a Great Question” which I hope you found thought and question-provoking!

Share your thoughts too.

We know that asking great questions helps us and others to understand better, and also enables us to understand ourselves. And there’s a real science to asking great questions.

The thing is, how can we ask a very powerful and thought-provoking question if first we don’t listen?

If we want to feel empowered and be taken seriously, another very important factor is – and you are probably already doing this, even if you don’t realise it – is “”Owning it!!

I learned this one when I was much shyer than I am now. I realised that I was playing safe and resisting holding my head above the parapet because it seemed safer to go with the opinions of others, rather than voice my own.

Hmmm …. that was a real biggie when I stepped out of my comfort zone there for the first time! But it was a momentous lightbulb moment for me.

Suddenly, people wanted to hear what I had to say! They were interested and I felt so much more empowered to stand in my own space and that’s when I took the plunge and started my own business.

This may seem hard to believe – I used to be shy!

Despite my shyness (and overcoming my fear of speaking in front of people), I had been training people world-wide for British Airways on communication skills, assertiveness, leadership, customer service, wellbeing etc.

And one of the key tools I covered in most of these programmes was …

The “I” Statement!

You may well have heard this and before I go into it, I want to first ask you a question:

How do you feel when another person starts a sentence with “You ……”?

For instance;

“You forgot to do that”

“You always do that”

Do you immediately feel like you have a bull’s eye attached to your forehead?

Like you have to be on the defensive?

Well, that’s where the “I” Statement comes in.

 

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It’s all about intentionally starting our sentences with “I” and owning it!

For instance;

“I thought the seminar went well because ….”

“I’m feeling uneasy about that option”

“I would prefer it’s done this way”

“I’m going to have to say no”

What’s the difference between that and starting sentences with “You ….”?

  • “I” Statements are among the most powerful you can make.
  • Using “I” is the hallmark of Assertiveness.
  • You are affirming who you are and what you want.

Looking at the above letter I think of it like a PILLAR that strengthens  your impact and authority, supporting everything you say and stand for.

It is about accountability …

“Accountability is the measure of a leader’s height”

-Jeffrey Benjamin-

[Jeffrey D. Benjamin occupies the position of Chairman for A-Mark Precious Metals, Inc. and Chairman at ImOn Communications LLC.]

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. Ask me about The Communication Code Group Programme starting soon!

P.P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE

Thought for the Week – That is a Great Question!

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “Hitting the Reset Button” which I hope you found thought-provoking. Even if you get a tiniest seed of thought from these weekly emails, then that is my aim. All my previous posts can be seen below.

Naturally, we all want to be the best version of ourselves and enjoy our best possible life and not to repeat any out-dated patterns of the past! As Albert Einstein famously said;

“If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got”

And, after the past 2 years, we all expect more from life now and look for more meaning now than before. So, humanity is going through a huge shift right now.

Last week, I suggested asking yourself questions to explore what your heart truly wants and to visualise your greatest desire and that exploring what our heart wants actually helps our brain to make it happen!

How many times can you remember someone asking you a really great question that made you really think deeper about something? What impact did that have on you?

How many times have you asked a question and that person said: “That’s a great Question”?

Asking great questions helps others to understand better, and there is a real science to asking great questions.

You will probably know about open and closed questions, leading questions, which is great. There is a time to ask an open question and a time to ask a closed one.

But there is so much more to questions than that because in order to ask great questions, first we have to listen. And many people think they are good listeners and many are and at the same time, many are not.

How can we ask a very powerful and thought-provoking question if first we don’t listen?

And that means parking our own agenda on the shelf in that moment so we can focus on the other person.

In reality, how often does that actually happen? When someone asks us a question and then gives us space to think?

This is a huge topic and one that I am passionate about – I train people to become certified coaches and this is one of the first things they learn about. Without exception, I see the scales fall from their eyes when they start to really understand what good listening is and how important it is to ask great questions!

So, asking a great question comes from great listening and then listening to their answer, asking another great question and so on until a lightbulb flashes on for that person.

I said earlier that asking great questions is a science, well here is a famous quote:

“The scientist is not a person who gives the right answers, They are the one who asks the right questions.”Claude Levi-Strauss-

As always I will leave that with that thought.

Lastly, I am going to send you a tool shortly that changed my life when I was at that point years ago when I felt anxious about the future. So, look out for this landing in your inbox!

With best wishes,
Korinne 

P.S. Ask me about The Communication Code Group Programme starting soon!

P.P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE

Thought for the Week – Hitting the Reset Button!

I wish you a very Happy New Year and hope that 2022 brings you and your loved ones happiness, good health and success in whatever you do.

In the hours leading up to midnight, I reflected on 2021 and how it had been for me. As many of you will have at some point in your lives, I have experienced some very challenging times up until the past 2 years or so.

For me, 2021 was a great year … after waiting 10 years, my divorce was finalised, I was able to sell property in England so I can buy a place in Guernsey, business has grown exponentially in so many ways. So, it was important to reflect and appreciate all of this and set intentions and wishes before starting a new year.

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “The Reality of Connecting with Others” – you can see all previous posts here in my blog.

I had hoped to see the new year in with my partner in France, but was unable to go with the latest travel restrictions. So, yes I really missed being with my partner and the friends we were due to see the New Year in with and it brought home again that strong need for connection. I was able to spend New Year’s day though with my family which was great.

And as 2021 drew to a close, I am sure you all reflected on it in our own way and all that was good and not-so-good about it! I see a New Year as an opportunity to celebrate all of the good, learn from the not-so-good and start with a clean slate.

And not to repeat the patterns of the past!

Don’t we all want to be the best version of ourselves and enjoy our best possible life?

And we all want more meaning now in our lives than before don’t we!

Ask yourself questions and explore these very important things – now is the time! Ask your heart what you truly want.

Visualise that potential and your greatest desire. What will it look like and feel like? Exploring what our heart wants actually helps our brain to make it happen!

And this helps to build of your future.

What do you want to heal about your past?

I went through some pretty dark times which I have spoken about in some of my blogs. I learned that once I identified my ‘gremlins’ and faced them head-on, they lost their power over me and didn’t seem so dark anymore.

When we do this, we come more connected with who we are and this connects us with others in a much more meaningful way.

New Year’s resolutions are all well and good if they work for you.

If not, do you set some intentions around what you want to see happen this year? If so, don’t limit yourself and recognise any of those emotions and ‘gremlins’ that hold you back.

When we heal the wounds and shift unwanted physical, mental and emotional habits, we free ourselves from anything that is happening outside ourselves, such as other peoples’ drama.

So, then we free ourselves to become the real creators of our life!

As I launch my new Group Coaching Programme called “The Communication Code”, people are contacting me about the things they are struggling with and want to find more meaning and satisfying ways to communicate that minimise stress.

I also notice that more people than we may expect also struggle to admit to themselves (let alone others) that they are struggling with communication in some way.

It could be something like being able to say “No” and not feeling guilty about it. The ‘Art of Saying No’ is about HOW to say no in a genuine way while building on that connection with others in a positive way.

“It’s only by saying NO that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”

-Steve Jobs-

As you know, I have created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help people discover their natural and most effective communication style. And if you know anyone who you think would benefit, if you could let them know about it that would be great. You can find out more about it HERE 

Who is this for?

Established Leaders and Business Owners who are great at what they do, and they know that, but struggle to feel seen, to connect, have impact and enjoy the success they deserve.

This programme provides everything they need to become a better communicator.

Over 25 years, I have developed The Communication Code as a communication specialist.

And as an entrepreneur and leader, I have worked with people just like you so I understand the struggles.

It’s not that they are a failure, or an “imposter” – it’s because they haven’t yet learned how to revive their innate ability to communicate with openness and authenticity.

For this reason, I created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help leaders and business owners discover their natural and most effective communication style.

Because I am running this in a new online Group Coaching format for the first time starting on 20th January, you will see that I am offering a very special rate with 30% off.

“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said”

-Peter Drucker-

So, we all have an opportunity to hit that RESET Button …

Revive your innate ability to communicate, build trust and rapport with others.

Elevate your personal effectiveness, power and influence in a positive way.

Select the platforms that match your communication style.

Empower others and yourself for greater impact and results.

Take Action and plan your road map to success.

Thank you for reading this right to the end and, as always I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE 

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Thought For the Week – The Reality Of Connecting With Others

I hope you had a very enjoyable Christmas whatever you did, wherever you were and whoever you spent it with. I had a quiet one with my parents. My brother was going to do Christmas this year but unfortunately he got Covid. He has now tested negative, but is still feeling the after-effects.

It was also my birthday on Christmas Eve and of course it was much more low-key than in previous years with Covid lurking! For those of you who have a Christmas Birthday, you will know that in reality you share your day with everyone around you. So, I truly value all the wonderful people in my life who make it a special day that is different to Christmas.

Last week’s Thought for the Week which was all about “Connecting Virtually with Impact” and the week before was “Do You Ever Feel Invisible”?

And of course, these things are very much at the forefront of our minds this year, as they would have been the year before because we miss that connection with people we had before. I was going to write “normally”, but what is the reality of connecting “normally” with others these days?

We know that connecting with people is now proven by research to be good for our mood, and our physical and mental health.

  • But what is “connecting”, really?
  • What makes it so important?
  • How can you tell if you are actually connecting with others?
  • And what can you do if this is a constant struggle for you?

Psychologist Abraham Maslow’s famed “Hierarchy of Needs” places our need to feel connected with a sense of belonging as secondary only to our survival needs.

And research shows us that loneliness is on the rise, and that a lack of human connection can be more harmful to our health than obesity, smoking and high blood pressure.

Even before Covid, we lived busy lives, trying to strike a balance between work, school, hobbies, self-care. And nowadays, more than ever, our social connections fall by the wayside. But connecting with others is more important than many might think.

Social connection can lower anxiety and depression, help us regulate our emotions, lead to higher self-esteem and empathy, and actually improve our immune systems. By neglecting our need to connect, we put our health at risk.

And at this time of year, over the holidays, this becomes evermore evident, either for others or for ourselves as we have time to reflect on our lives as the year draws to a close.

The reality is that we’re living in a time of true disconnection right now.

While technology seems to connect us more than ever, the screens around us disconnect us from nature, from ourselves, and from others. Wi-Fi alone isn’t enough to fulfil our social needs – we need face-to-face interaction to thrive as well. And technology should be enhancing our connection to others, not replacing it.

And there was a time in my life years ago when I had loads of people around me and yet I felt lonely. So, it is not always about isolation.

With Covid, we are at home more than ever and some of us are more outgoing than others and that is totally normal. Anyone who has done a Myers Briggs assessment will know their most preferable style.

So, our inherent need for human connection doesn’t mean that every introvert must become a social butterfly. Having human connection can look different for each person.

I invite you to think about how you can create more connection with people to suit you, your preferred lifestyle and circumstances. And also, how can you actually help people who may be feeling lonely?

Here are some examples: –

  • Is there a club or outdoor group activity they could join safely?
  • Are there any old friends they’ve lost touch with and could reconnect?
  • Is there a cause they care about that they could support?
  • How practical is it to go out for a coffee / tea and read a paper or book safely in a communal space?
  • Have they introduced themselves to their neighbours?
  • Asking someone for help when they need it is absolutely OK. Who could they ask?
  • Do a random act of kindness!

If anyone is feeling lonely, they are certainly not the only one and they don’t have to live in isolation. We live in a world with over seven billion people, and we all need connection.

As you know, I have created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help people discover their natural and most effective communication style. And if you know anyone who you think would benefit, if you could share the link with them that would be great:

Find out more about The Communication Code

“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy
because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless
and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that” 
~ Robin Williams ~

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. To book a COMPLIMENTARY CLARITY SESSION, Click HERE
www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

Thought for the Week – Connect Virtually with Impact

Last week, I sent you the Thought for the Week which was all about “Do you ever feel invisible?” And even if you don’t feel that way, the chances are that you know at least one person who does.

By now, you will have got used to virtual meetings on platforms like Zoom, Teams etc.

And by now, you will have a good idea of how effective these meetings are as opposed to those that are face-to-face.

Let’s face it, we would not manage without these platforms now and in many cases, these will replace face-to-face meetings forever because they are so convenient and save us time travelling to and from meetings.

And we know that with face-to-face communication, research has found that the impact of our body language is 55%, our tone of voice 38% and our words just 7%.

So, how does this work then when we are having virtual meetings? I would love to hear your thoughts on this, so do let me know.

We know how important our body language and tone of voice are, so how do we continue to build trust and rapport with people virtually and have the same impact we would like to have face-to-face?

There are some very simple and subtle things we can do and I would like to share this with you: 7 Game-Changing Tips to Build Rapport with Others on Zoom

I am sure you already know some of this, but if you get even one tip that makes a difference then it’s worthwhile!

Also, I am launching my new Group Coaching Programme; The Communication Code in January.

communication-code

Who is this for?

It’s for established Business Owners and Leaders who are great at what they do, and they know that, but may struggle to feel seen, connect and have the impact and success they deserve.

This programme provides what you need to become a better communicator.

Over 25 years, I have developed The Communication Code as a communication specialist. As an entrepreneur and leader, I have worked with people just like you and understand the struggles many have.

It’s not that they are a failure, or an “imposter” – it’s because they haven’t yet learned how to revive their innate ability to communicate with openness and authenticity.

For this reason, I created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help people discover their natural and most effective communication style.

For instance, there’s a big difference between the person who makes an impact and has people lining up to work with them, and the person who leaves a meeting feeling like no one took them seriously.

In my programme, participants will learn how to interact with others in a warm, confident way that builds trust and rapport and attracts the right kind of clients.

And the beauty of this programme is that I show them how to do this in their own unique style, so no more feeling awkward or stressed!

Learning how to communicate authentically is a vital part of this process, as we can’t build a successful business without the trust and respect of our clients, staff and stakeholders.

I show participants how to reset their communication style, giving them a renewed, genuine confidence that will result in successful outcomes for all.

And because this is the first Group Coaching Programme of its kind, I am offering a very special price for the first cohort, which I am limiting to 12 people. Places on this 8-week programme will normally go for £997 but as this is the first one, I am offering a special price of just £697, which presents amazing value for what you get …

Find out more about The Communication Code

“THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS AND WITH OURSELVES
ULTIMATELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES”
~ ANTHONY ROBBINS ~

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. To book a COMPLIMENTARY CLARITY SESSION, Click HERE

Thought for the Week – Do you ever feel invisible?

The younger generation will tell you that being invisible is a good thing in computer games like Minecraft!

But what if someone feels invisible in real life?

You may have heard about how we can develop this sense of “wounded self” – it’s a view of ourselves that we let affect us based on how our parents, teachers, friends, family members, and strangers treated us in the past.

Imagine if you were in a situation like this …

You’re in a meeting, crowded room or social event, and you look around. Everyone seems to be talking to one another – perhaps you arrived by yourself or you came with friends. Laughter fills the air, and your self-awareness heightens. You realise that you’re just standing there, and you feel distanced from the rest of the people in the room. You feel as though everyone could walk right through you, as if you weren’t there. You think to yourself, “I just don’t seem to fit in”.

You may have heard of Deepak Chopra, an American author and public speaker? Well, he explained that there are different kinds of invisibility. And if someone is feeling invisible, first, they must acknowledge what they are feeling and what aspect of themselves is being unseen or unheard. For example …

  • Are they not feeling heard when they speak?
  • Do they feel their opinions are being disregarded or even discredited?

Now, whilst you may not feel like this at all – do you know someone who does? If so, please feel free to share this email with them.

Once people can pinpoint the situations that make them feel invisible, they can go on to do something about it and I can show them how to do that in their own unique way. If you would like to know more, I’d like to invite them, or you, to book a Free Clarity Call with me personally.

If you are feeling invisible, most of what you’re experiencing is the hidden, wonderful person that makes you, YOU! If you have tucked this person away from yourself and others, now it’s time to untuck and embrace yourself.

Don’t confuse visibility with credibility.

Harvey MacKay (1993). “The Harvey Mackay Rolodex Network Builder”

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne  
www.CommunicationCode.co.uk
P.S. Book a FREE Clarity Call HERE

Thought for the Week – Speaking with Purpose not Impulse

Hello again and I hope you have had a good week.

Last week, I spoke about Gremlins and FOMO and the week before about how we build new skills and habits and put them into practice. 

Expressing ourselves honestly in any relationship is essential to our well-being, whether at work or personally. 

When we feel listened to and understood, we count ourselves lucky because we know how rare that experience is. We reserve our most intimate selves for the people who, along with us, co-create an open space where we feel free to express ourselves and listen without judgment. These relationships, which thrive on open communication, can mean the difference between existential loneliness and a deep sense of belonging. We all long to feel heard, understood, and loved, and clear communication makes this possible.

Sometimes problems arise when expressing how we feel, but it is always worth it to make the effort. In any kind of situation, whether at work, at home with family or elsewhere, successful communication requires some forethought, otherwise we risk blundering through our relationships like the proverbial “bull in a china shop”.

However, at the same time, we don’t want to tie ourselves in knots and pad out our words so we feel stifled and then what we want to say comes out all wrong and confuses the matter further.

The good news is that there are many tools and techniques that empower us to speak our truth clearly and succinctly while building long-lasting relationships in all areas of our lives.

When we speak impulsively, our intent is often overshadowed by the damage that’s done by speaking without forethought.

However, when we speak with purpose, we are able to consciously express ourselves, which elevates the flow and understanding of our conversations and inspires everyone to share from a more genuine place.

With the right expert guidance and knowledge of how to respond more mindfully, anyone can transform the way they engage with others to create deeper, more meaningful connections.

communication-codeI am so excited to be launching a new online Group Coaching Programme in January that is all about how to communicate with impact so people want to stop and listen to what you have to say. This is called “The Communication Code”. If you would like to know more, please ask.

As you know, I have been helping people in this field for a very long time now and have created this programme with tried and tested tools, tips and techniques. Not only will participants have one-to-one coaching, they will also learn so much from each other because there is added value in having the opportunity to practice what they have learned in a safe environment. As a result, they will have more success in all of their relationships, their business and their life.

So, this week, I invite you to think about your intention before starting conversations. Know what outcome you would ideally like without being attached to the outcome.

Why?

Because being attached to a particular outcome means you are going in with a sense of lack and this disintegrates your personal power and impact.

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.”
– Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart –

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne 

www.CommunicationCode.co.uk
P.S. Book a FREE Clarity Call HERE

Thought for the Week – Gremlins and FOMO

I hope you have had a good week.

Last week’s Thought for the Week, was about the Reticular Activating System (RAS) in us humans that is how our brain builds new neural pathways when we learn something new and when we put new habits into practice. You can read my previous blogs HERE

And it is only when we commit to keep practicing and experimenting with new tools, tips and techniques that we can change old habits and form new ones. It usually takes around 10 weeks of consistently doing this that the new become automatic, so we don’t have to think about them as much.

So, I hope if you are learning something new, or changing an old habit that it’s all going well so far and do keep at it!

This week, I had to remind myself of a how my old “Gremlins” can stick their beaks in again when uninvited! You will know what I mean from earlier blogs when I have spoken about these “Gremlins”! If you have no idea what I’m talking about, these are those unwelcome voices that can play in our head that result in self-doubt.

It’s like they are sitting on our shoulder saying things like;

“Who do you think you are!”

“You know you’re no good at that”

“You’re not clever enough do to that!”

And it is these gremlins that can remind us of old outdated habits that used to hold us back and certain triggers can set these off.

For me, this week, an old gremlin was triggered because I’m looking for a house and in Guernsey where I live, and the property market has gone crazy. I was dealing with one agent who regularly invites sealed bids when a few people are interested in a property and this practice has been pushing up the prices.

So, I caught my gremlin saying “You’re going to miss out on getting the house you want and will only get what’s left and no-one else wants!”

Yes, that was my FOMO Gremlin – my Fear of Missing Out that reared its’ unwelcome head and beak!

I won’t go into where that came from but will just say it was from childhood and I am sure that some of you reading this can also relate to that! And, even if we have overcome this and moved on in our life, something can trigger an old gremlin into action.

We just have to recognise it and why it was there at some point in the past and then say; “No thank you, I’m not going there!”, You can even visualise yourself flicking it off your shoulder!

With FOMO though, have you found this can come up from time to time? For instance, with “Black Friday”? or some other kind of special offer that you don’t want to miss out on?

Do you recognise your gremlin when it shows up?

Can you flick it off when it appears?

Can you visualise it as just a fluffy toy without any power over you?

“Life has no limitations except the ones you make!” – Les Brown-

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne  

www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

P.S. Book a FREE Clarity Call HERE

Thought for the Week – Your Reticular Activating System!

I hope you have had a good week.

Last week’s Thought for the Week, was about the 21/90 rule, based on the philosophy that it takes 21 days to make a habit and 90 days to make it a permanent lifestyle change. You can see all previous Thoughts for the Week below.
“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently. Courage, like fear, is a habit. The more you do it, the more you do it, and this habit-of stepping up, of taking action-more than anything else, will move you in a different direction”. -Tony Robbins-

So, maybe you are 7 days in to making a new habit!

 

When I deliver training programmes, this always comes up because of course people want to know how to apply the new things they learn. Last Friday, I ran a one-day course “Effective and Assertive Communication” and, as I am sure you’ll appreciate, this is a huge topic to cover in just a day!

 

And I don’t just stand there talking about it, what would that achieve! A big part of it is the application and practice and my programmes are always interactive for this reason.

 

“No role plays please!”

 

I hear this all the time and no, I no, I don’t ask people to sit in front of the class and do a role play. (By the way I deliver virtual programmes as well as face-to-face). I introduce other ways to practice the skills that are engaging and useful at the same time. So, by the end of the day, delegates leave the course feeling like they are on track to learning new habits and my testimonials speak for themselves.

 

However, what then happens?

 

Yes, it is down to them to keep practicing and experimenting with their new tools, tips and techniques because it’s only when we do that, we change old habits. Not just now and then, but consistently several times a day, every day, so the new habits develop, becoming easier and easier until they become automatic!

 

That’s how our brains work – our “Reticular Activating System”

 

Like learning to ride a bike, drive a car or learn a new language. At first, we probably thought; “this thing is much harder than I thought!” Right? And we have to focus on what we want and where we are going to re-train our mind.

 

 

So, this week’s Thought for the Week is all about your Reticular Activating System and building new neural pathways so that we can put new habits and tools into practice.

 

When we do that, these become part of our sub-conscious mind and become automatic.

 

If you drive a car or ride a bike, how often have you got from A to B and forgot how you actually got there?

 

  • What new habit or goal would you like to achieve in the next 3 months?
  • What’s motivating you to get there?
  • What new habits have you successfully formed in the past?
  • How did you achieve that?
  • What kind of things got in the way of you getting there?
  • How did you overcome these?
  • How did you feel when you realised you had achieved it?

 

So, every time you get into the mindset that adopting that new habit is too tough, remind yourself that you CAN do this because you have done it before!

 

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

 

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne


www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

P.S. Book a FREE Clarity Call HERE

Thought for the Week – The 21/90 Rule for a Happier Lifestyle

Last week, I shared Wycliff’s inspirational story about how “lighting someone’s candle” in some way can make a huge difference to your community and our world. For him, it was simply the $1 he needed to be able to go to school.

Well, this week, I have been intentionally doing something to light someone’s candle in some way and I have done this through a couple of random acts of kindness, gifting some free coaching sessions, and giving time and attention to people I might not normally have done that for.

This is just a week and going forward, I could so easily forget to do it and life is so hectic.

And yet, in such a short time, this metaphor has become so symbolic that I can’t help wondering what in immense impact it would have if everyone in the World could do this.

So, the thought for this week is about how we form habits that become integral to our lives.

You may have heard about the 21/90 rule?  This is based on the philosophy that …

It takes 21 days to make a habit and 90 days to make it a permanent lifestyle change.

And building positive habits create a happier and long-lasting lifestyle for ourselves as well as for others.

Is there a new lifestyle change you would like to make?

If you commit to your goal for 21 consecutive days, it will become a habit.

Commit to your goal for 90 days and it will become a part of your lifestyle.

Are you ready to make some positive changes? Here are some tips to help you keep your momentum …

  1. Keep it focused, you can’t do EVERYTHING. Focus on building one small habit at a time, the rest will follow.
  1. Decide what you want to accomplish or change. This could be a personal or professional goal. Write it down in your planner or keep it on your laptop, making sure it is easily visible to you so you can remain focused on your goal. (Don’t be afraid of starting from the beginning, everyone must pass GO!)

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible”

– Tony Robbins –

  1. What are the steps you need to take to achieve this new habit? For example; if your goal is to be more active, you might decide to try three new activities this week or plan on teaming up with a friend / colleague who often goes running. It really helps to have some accountability too doesn’t it! Whatever your goal, planning in times and dates are helpful ways to set yourself up for success and will help you to build habits and making plans with people who share your goal is a sure way to stay motivated.
  1. You need to stay committed to your goal if you want to build a habit and eventually change your lifestyle. The 21/90 rule only works if you consistently stick to your plan, the days must be consecutive. If you think you’ll have trouble committing, set boundaries. For example, if you need to take a day off make sure you don’t miss two in a row.
  1. Rinse and repeat! The 21/90 rule can be used again and again to achieve your goals, build habits and change your lifestyle. Start small but think big.

Start small but think big and start by lighting your own candle!

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne

www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

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