Last week’s Thought for the Week was about ” How do you Know Your Impact?“. This was about how much impact each of us has on the people around us and we probably don’t realise just how much.
[See my previous blogs below]
I’m in the process of moving house and you will know only too well I’m sure how stressful that can be! And in this situation, communication is critical, right!
When communication is good, things run smoothly.
When communication is lacking, well, do I need to say more? ☹
How do I deal with this?
If I get frustrated with the other person, that just snarls things up even more! (As tempting as that is because we all tend to revert to ‘survival mode behaviours” when under stress!)
I have to accept that I can’t do anything about how other people communicate, all I can do is influence their communication through my own communication.
Whilst our brains are highly-evolved pieces of kit, did you know that they are basically in two halves?
The left-hand side of our brain is the logical part.
The left-hand side is our emotional and creative part.
When under stress, the emotional side takes over the logical side … unless we make a choice to respond differently and that is what we have to learn how to do!
So, while I was on the phone to someone trying to move forward with my move, I just wanted to be heard because I needed to explain something and the other person just wasn’t listening. They were making assumptions of what they thought I wanted to say. So, I had to consciously choose my response!
I took a deep breath (this rebalances the two halves of the brain), I chose not to get stroppy and instead chose how I could move that conversation forward more effectively through my own communication. And it went much better after that. Thankfully, we are now on track!
“Communication works for those who work at it.”
[English composer most famous for his work on animated movies]
It takes time and energy to become a great communicator. Though some people start out better than others, we can improve as long as we put in the effort.
As always, I will leave you with that thought.
I also invite you to book a Complimentary Consultation with me where you can explore further how you communicate and the impact you are having.
With best wishes for your success.