Well so much has happened in our World hasn’t it over the past week! We have lost our dear Queen Elizabeth II and what an inspiration she was to us all.
Her Majesty was also one of the best communicators ever known, making instant connections with those she met.
And it all seemed so effortless for her didn’t it!
I hope you enjoyed the last Thought for the Week; “The 7-38-55 Rule” and how much impact our non-verbal communication has without us realising.
You can see previous blogs below.
I am helping business owners and leaders who struggle to be taken seriously and to communicate with more impact and authority to turn things around quickly and get great results.
When I first discovered this, I found it quite shocking how I could be making mistakes without realising. Yes, once we are aware, these can so easily be rectified.
How about the speed at which we talk then?
Have you noticed that, as our World moves at an ever-increasing pace, people around us are speaking faster?
- How easy is it to listen to them?
- How easy is it to take in what they are saying?
- How seriously do we take them?
- How much impact are they having?
- How well are they connecting with us as they speak?
- Do you feel like you are being talked AT when this happens?
Hmmm, I have noticed how I feel when this happens and I find it very difficult to connect with someone if they are speaking at a fast pace.
So, our PACE has so much to do with it, as well as our tone of voice, body language and the words we choose.
Would you walk away or would you try to connect with that person?
If you want to hear what they have to say, then here’s a tip …
Firstly, use their name (if you haven’t already) because when we hear our name, that connects us to the other person.
Then if you can summarise (succinctly) what they just told you to check your understanding, that will slow down the pace and show them that you have been listening. Again, this builds connection.
Then you could ask a question if you need something clarified.
You will be surprised to know how often people forget to stop and work on connecting with people and give up very easily!
As always, I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips on how you, and / or your team can be more effective communicators.
So, if you, or one of your colleagues is ready to explore this further, you / they can book a complimentary 30-minute consultation with me! There is absolutely no obligation. After 30 minutes, you / they will have gained more clarity on the next steps, empowering you / them to thrive.
“Redwood time moves at a more stately pace than human time. To us, when we look at a redwood tree, it seems to be motionless and still, and yet redwoods are constantly in motion, moving upward into space, articulating themselves and filling redwood space over redwood time, over thousands of years”.
-Richard Preston –
[Bestselling author who has written books about infectious disease, bioterrorism, redwoods and other subjects, as well as fiction]
As always, I will leave you with that thought!
With best wishes for your success.