Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “A Life Less Ordinary” about the incredible Darren Robson who left such a powerful legacy. He most definitely lived a life less ordinary and empowered so many others to do that too, myself included.
You can see this and all of my previous blogs HERE.
Darren was a down to earth guy and people felt relaxed in his company, while at the same time, he wanted to get to know them and always saw the best in everyone he met.
As you know, I’m a coach and also run a number of programmes around Communication. My last couple of posts have been around ‘proximity’ and how we become the people we spend most of our time with. So, what has this got to do with Communication?
Well, I believe that it’s all about how we ‘show up’ when we are with other people and yes, that may be different depending on who we are with! And how they show up with us to some degree.
Life can be so challenging sometimes when you just want to pull up the covers in the morning, burrow deeper into your mattress, and hide away from it all. This is precisely why showing up is such a big deal.
And here’s the thing …
Do we decide how we will be with others depending first on how they are with us? If we do that, who is in control? And it’s not that we want to have control over others, ideally we want to remain equal to them. And that is communication in itself.
So, of course we want to spend most of our time around those we are most comfortable with, can be ourselves and feel good.
At the same time, when we are around those who we feel less comfortable with, do we have to change the way we are? Of course not. If we do, then we’re just perpetuating this circle of potential conflict.
“The energy we show up with is more often than not the energy we encounter”. –Rasheed Ogunlaru-
[Author of the book Soul Trader – Putting the Heart Back into Your Business]
If we ‘show up’ the same way with everyone, every time, what have we got to lose?
According to Jeffrey Fry (Author of ‘Distilled Thoughts’), the formula for success is 2% talent, 8% luck, and 90% of showing up every day.
How do you show up every day with everyone?
Instead of showing up to let everyone know how great we are, show up to find out how great everyone else is.
-Simon Sinek-
[Author and Inspirational Speaker]
I will leave you with that thought and will be in touch again soon with more thoughts and tips.
*|FNAME|*, if you would like to explore this further with me, I would love to hear from you. You can choose a time that best works for you HERE
With best wishes for your success,
Korinne Le Page