Thought for the Week – Jane’s Journey to Enhanced Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

emotional-intelligenceI hope your week is off to a great start! Last week, we discussed the pivotal role of non-verbal cues in effective communication with “Unspoken Signals and the Cuban Missile Crisis!” If you missed it, you can see this and all of my previous blogs below.

These cues play a significant role in conveying emotions and meaning beyond words. Building on that, this week’s thought explores the profound connection between emotional intelligence and non-verbal communication.

Understanding Emotional Intelligence (EQ – Emotional Quotient):

This is a person’s ability to recognise and manage their own emotions while also understanding and influencing the emotions of others in a positive way. It involves a set of skills and competencies that enable individuals to navigate social situations, make sound decisions and build positive relationships.

The non-verbal cues we explored last week play a key role in conveying emotions, i.e., our body language, facial expressions and tone of voice, even in written communications. And EQ hinges on our ability to decode and respond to these cues accurately.

Here’s a case study of a client I worked with (I have changed her name):

Jane’s Journey to Enhanced Emotional Intelligence:

Background: Jane, a mid-level manager, was a competent and skilled professional in her field. However, she had a reputation for being abrupt and sometimes insensitive in her communication style.

Her colleagues often found her difficult to work with, and her direct reports struggled to connect with her. Jane’s career was progressing, but her lack of emotional intelligence was holding her back from reaching her full potential.

Improving Self Awareness: Jane recognised that she needed to improve her relationships and the need to develop her emotional intelligence, starting with self-awareness. She began journaling her reactions in various work situations and how she was feeling.

Over time, she identified patterns in her behaviour, noticing that she tended to react defensively when her ideas were challenged. This self-awareness was a crucial first step in her journey.

With a better understanding of her emotional triggers, Jane focused on self-regulation. She practiced taking deep breaths and pausing before responding in tense situations. She also sought feedback from trusted colleagues to help monitor her progress.

Building Empathy: Jane began taking a genuine interest in her colleagues’ opinions and concerns. She practiced active listening and often asked open-ended questions to understand their viewpoints. As a result, her colleagues felt heard and valued.

Improved Social Skills: Jane realised that to enhance her working relationships, she needed to work on her social skills. She had coaching with me, she came on one of my workshops on effective communication, conflict resolution, and team building. She also made an effort to be more approachable and to offer support to her team members.

Positive Outcomes: Jane’s commitment to improving her emotional intelligence had a profound impact on her life.

  • Her relationships with colleagues and team members improved significantly.
  • She became a more approachable and supportive manager, which boosted her team’s morale and productivity.
  • Her colleagues found it easier to collaborate with her, and her work environment became more harmonious.

Business Negotiations: Jane’s enhanced emotional intelligence also played a significant role in her negotiations with clients and partners. She was better at understanding their needs and concerns, which allowed her to create more mutually beneficial agreements. And her ability to stay calm under pressure during negotiations made her a more effective negotiator.

Career Advancement: Jane’s new found emotional intelligence skills did not go unnoticed. Her improved leadership style and ability to manage relationships effectively led to her promotion to a higher managerial role. She became known for her EQ in the workplace, and her career continued to progress.

Conclusion: Jane’s journey to improve her emotional intelligence illustrates the transformative power of EQ on various aspects of life. By focusing on self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and social skills, she not only enhanced her personal relationships but also enjoyed significant success in her professional life.

This case study highlights that EQ is a skill that can be developed and honed over time, leading to positive outcomes in both personal and business contexts.Top of Form

So, this week, I invite you to increase your own self-awareness and notice your own non-verbal cues, as well as how well you ask open-ended questions, listen and show empathy with others.

“In the world of business, emotional intelligence is a game-changer. It can drive your success in ways you never imagined”

-Harvey Mackay-

[Author of the New York Times #1 Bestsellers; “Swim with The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive” and “Beware the Naked Man Who Offers You His Shirt”]

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With best wishes for your success,


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Published by korinnethrive

Hello, I’m Korinne … I work with committed and determined professionals who want to master their communuac skills. Often business people believe they are doing OK and yet they know they are not getting the results they want and deserve. I’m passionate about helping people to achieve thir vision and get results. I have been working with Business Owners and Leaders for more that 25 years, helping them to realise their vision of what they truly want, overcome barriers to effective communication, so they can be the best version of themselves and thrive in their lives.

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