Last time, we explored “Reframing Conversations for Positive Change” and how consciously reframing our conversations helps us to move beyond old narratives and into a much more empowering space.
If you missed it, you can catch up here
This week let’s take it further by looking at the power of the questions we ask – because the quality of our conversations is shaped by the quality of our questions.
Why the Questions We Ask Shape Our Conversations
Have you ever left a conversation feeling stuck, uninspired, or misunderstood? Often, this has less to do with the answers given and more to do with the questions asked.
The way we frame our questions can either expand possibilities or reinforce limitations. A simple shift in how we inquire can lead to new insights, stronger connections, and more meaningful dialogue.
The Power of Questions
How does it feel when you ask a question and someone genuinely says; “That’s a great question”?
A question is more than a request for information – it’s a tool for shaping thought and perspective.
For example, consider the difference between:
- Why is this so difficult? What’s one small step we could take to make progress?
- Who made the mistake? What can we learn from this experience?
- Is there even a solution? What haven’t we tried yet?
One approach focuses on blame, frustration, or limitation. The other invites growth, curiosity, and action. By shifting the way we ask questions, we shift the nature of our conversations – and, in turn, the outcomes we create.
How to Ask Better Questions
1. Shift from Closed to Expansive Questions:
Closed questions (those that can be answered with “yes” or “no”) limit exploration. Instead, try open-ended questions that encourage deeper thinking.
The reality is that, even when we know this, we can forget and still ask closed questions! So, we need to consciously choose open and expansive questions.
Here are some examples of choosing smarter questions:
X Do you like this idea? YES: Which aspects of this idea resonate with you?
X Do you agree? YES: What’s your perspective on this?
X Is this the best way ? YES: What alternatives might be worth considering?
2. Ask Questions That Inspire Possibility
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, focus on what’s possible.
X What’s the problem? YES: What opportunities does this challenge present?
X Why won’t this work? YES: How might we make this work differently?
3. Be Curious and Present
Great questions come from genuine curiosity. Instead of preparing your next response while someone is speaking, truly listen – and let that guide your next question.
4. Encourage Reflection
The best questions don’t just get quick answers – they get people thinking. Ask questions that enable others to pause and consider new perspectives.
The Ripple Effect of Better Questions
When we become more intentional about the questions we ask, we create conversations that inspire engagement, collaboration, and innovation.
So, this week, challenge yourself:
- How can I ask better questions in my conversations?
- What shifts when I replace limiting questions with possibility-driven ones?
By changing the way we ask, we change the way we connect, think, and create.
“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
– Tony Robbins –
Let’s keep the conversation going – what’s the best question you’ve asked recently?
Wishing you a great week!
With warmest wishes,
Korinne Le Page
Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering You to Thrive!
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