Hello again and I hope you have had a good week.
Last week, I spoke about Gremlins and FOMO and the week before about how we build new skills and habits and put them into practice.
Expressing ourselves honestly in any relationship is essential to our well-being, whether at work or personally.
When we feel listened to and understood, we count ourselves lucky because we know how rare that experience is. We reserve our most intimate selves for the people who, along with us, co-create an open space where we feel free to express ourselves and listen without judgment. These relationships, which thrive on open communication, can mean the difference between existential loneliness and a deep sense of belonging. We all long to feel heard, understood, and loved, and clear communication makes this possible.
Sometimes problems arise when expressing how we feel, but it is always worth it to make the effort. In any kind of situation, whether at work, at home with family or elsewhere, successful communication requires some forethought, otherwise we risk blundering through our relationships like the proverbial “bull in a china shop”.
However, at the same time, we don’t want to tie ourselves in knots and pad out our words so we feel stifled and then what we want to say comes out all wrong and confuses the matter further.
The good news is that there are many tools and techniques that empower us to speak our truth clearly and succinctly while building long-lasting relationships in all areas of our lives.
When we speak impulsively, our intent is often overshadowed by the damage that’s done by speaking without forethought.
However, when we speak with purpose, we are able to consciously express ourselves, which elevates the flow and understanding of our conversations and inspires everyone to share from a more genuine place.
With the right expert guidance and knowledge of how to respond more mindfully, anyone can transform the way they engage with others to create deeper, more meaningful connections.
I am so excited to be launching a new online Group Coaching Programme in January that is all about how to communicate with impact so people want to stop and listen to what you have to say. This is called “The Communication Code”. If you would like to know more, please ask.
As you know, I have been helping people in this field for a very long time now and have created this programme with tried and tested tools, tips and techniques. Not only will participants have one-to-one coaching, they will also learn so much from each other because there is added value in having the opportunity to practice what they have learned in a safe environment. As a result, they will have more success in all of their relationships, their business and their life.
So, this week, I invite you to think about your intention before starting conversations. Know what outcome you would ideally like without being attached to the outcome.
Because being attached to a particular outcome means you are going in with a sense of lack and this disintegrates your personal power and impact.
“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.”
– Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart –
As always, I will leave you with that thought.
With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.