Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “Hitting the Reset Button” which I hope you found thought-provoking. Even if you get a tiniest seed of thought from these weekly emails, then that is my aim. All my previous posts can be seen below.
Naturally, we all want to be the best version of ourselves and enjoy our best possible life and not to repeat any out-dated patterns of the past! As Albert Einstein famously said;
“If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got”
And, after the past 2 years, we all expect more from life now and look for more meaning now than before. So, humanity is going through a huge shift right now.
Last week, I suggested asking yourself questions to explore what your heart truly wants and to visualise your greatest desire and that exploring what our heart wants actually helps our brain to make it happen!
How many times can you remember someone asking you a really great question that made you really think deeper about something? What impact did that have on you?
How many times have you asked a question and that person said: “That’s a great Question”?
Asking great questions helps others to understand better, and there is a real science to asking great questions.
You will probably know about open and closed questions, leading questions, which is great. There is a time to ask an open question and a time to ask a closed one.
But there is so much more to questions than that because in order to ask great questions, first we have to listen. And many people think they are good listeners and many are and at the same time, many are not.
How can we ask a very powerful and thought-provoking question if first we don’t listen?
And that means parking our own agenda on the shelf in that moment so we can focus on the other person.
In reality, how often does that actually happen? When someone asks us a question and then gives us space to think?
This is a huge topic and one that I am passionate about – I train people to become certified coaches and this is one of the first things they learn about. Without exception, I see the scales fall from their eyes when they start to really understand what good listening is and how important it is to ask great questions!
So, asking a great question comes from great listening and then listening to their answer, asking another great question and so on until a lightbulb flashes on for that person.
I said earlier that asking great questions is a science, well here is a famous quote:
“The scientist is not a person who gives the right answers, They are the one who asks the right questions.”–Claude Levi-Strauss-
As always I will leave that with that thought.
Lastly, I am going to send you a tool shortly that changed my life when I was at that point years ago when I felt anxious about the future. So, look out for this landing in your inbox!
With best wishes,
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