Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “The Art of an Open Heart” about how the art of listening is a transformative skill that influences relationships on various levels. If you missed it, feel free to catch up HERE.

This week, let’s dive into a crucial aspect of communication that goes hand-in-hand with effective listening and can elevate your ability to influence with grace and authenticity.

Have you ever found yourself in a position where you need someone to do something for you, and you wonder about the best way to approach it? The distinction between persuasion and influence plays a pivotal role, not just in communication styles but also in the outcomes you achieve.

When it comes to influencing, it’s about fostering a genuine connection and respect, rather than pushing or coercing. If you manage people or interact with suppliers, the way you approach requests matters significantly.

Consider a scenario where you’ve asked someone to go beyond their usual duties, and they respond with a “no”. How you handle this moment can determine not only the immediate outcome but also the future dynamics of your relationship.

Here’s a powerful tip for turning a potential “no” into a reconsideration:

Instead of asking a potentially confrontational “Why can’t you do it?” try framing it with; “I was really hoping you could help me with that. May I ask the reason you can’t this time?”

This subtle shift makes a world of difference. It communicates your genuine hope for assistance, owning the request, and shows respect by inquiring about the reason rather than casting judgment.

And remember that less is more.

“A single question can be more influential than a thousand statements.”

-Bo Bennett-

[Social psychologist and author]

If you’re curious to explore more about how you would like to influence more, I invite you to book a Complimentary Consultation with me HERE to see how I can help. (No obligations, just clarity on your journey ahead).

Wishing you a week filled with many meaningful connections!

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!

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Last week’s Thought for the Week, “The Influence of the Unspoken Word” and the fascinating paradox and silent power of speaking less. If you missed it, feel free to catch up HERE.

The art of finding balance in our communication is crucial, and active listening plays a pivotal role. Have you ever wondered what it is about the art of listening that cultivates such influence? Is it the genuine interest in others’ perspectives, or perhaps the discernment to choose responses wisely?

Last week, I shared a quote from Deepak Chopra that beautifully encapsulates the essence of listening: “You have to listen with a heart. You have to listen with generosity. You have to listen without judgment. And you have to listen without any type of personal agenda.”

Listening, as an art, goes beyond the simple act of hearing words. It involves a genuine interest in understanding the perspectives, emotions, and experiences of others. When we actively listen, we not only absorb the words spoken but also attune ourselves to the underlying sentiments and unspoken nuances.

This genuine interest creates a powerful connection, as it communicates to the speaker that their thoughts and feelings are valued and respected.

Moreover, the art of listening is closely tied to the discernment of choosing responses wisely. It’s about more than just formulating a reply; it’s about understanding the needs of the moment and responding in a way that fosters understanding and connection.

Discernment in responses allows us to navigate conversations with empathy, choosing words that resonate with the speaker’s emotions and contribute positively to the exchange.

The influence cultivated through active listening is multifaceted …

Firstly, it builds trust. When someone feels heard and understood, a foundation of trust is established, creating a safe space for open and honest communication.

Secondly, it nurtures empathy. By actively listening, we step into the shoes of the speaker, experiencing their perspective and emotions. This empathetic connection enhances the quality of our relationships.

Furthermore, the art of listening promotes effective communication. It minimises misunderstandings and ensures that the intended message is received accurately. This clarity in communication is vital for building strong connections and preventing conflicts that may arise from misinterpretations.

In professional settings, the influence of active listening is undeniable. Leaders who actively listen to their team members foster a positive work environment, boost morale, and encourage collaboration. Similarly, in personal relationships, the art of listening contributes to the growth and deepening of connections.

In summary, the art of listening is a transformative skill that influences relationships on various levels. It involves genuine interest, discernment in responses, trust-building, empathy, and effective communication. By honing this skill, we not only enrich our own lives but also contribute to creating a more connected and understanding world. 

“True listening goes far beyond auditory perception. It’s about connecting with the speaker’s emotions, intentions, and meaning.”

– Richard Branson –

 If you have thoughts to share or experiences to recount on this subject, I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to reply to this email or leave a comment on the blog.

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Wishing you a week filled with meaningful connections!

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!

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I trust this message finds you well and thriving in the rhythm of life.

Last week’s exploration into “The Heartbeat of Communication” took us on a journey beyond the spoken word, revealing the intricate dance of nuances that shape our connections. If you haven’t had the opportunity to delve into this yet, feel free to catch up below.

I went deeper into the expansive Pandora’s Box that is ‘Communication.’ One observation that has been at the forefront of my awareness is the subtle yet potent interplay between speaking and listening.

The Art of Silence: A Paradoxical Influence

Have you ever noticed that in conversations, those who speak less often hold a certain magnetism? It’s a paradoxical phenomenon where the power of silence seems to outweigh the abundance of words. While individuals may engage in over-talking, others around them may subtly begin to zone out.

Conversely, those who choose to say less, opting for active listening, observation, and a keen awareness of the room, often wield a unique influence. They forge real connections, leave a lasting impact, and navigate social dynamics with finesse.

The Dynamics of Speaking and Listening: A Reflection

This observation prompts a profound reflection on our own communication styles. Are we more inclined to express ourselves verbally, filling the air with words? Or do we embrace the power of silent observation, allowing the richness of our surroundings to guide our responses?

Consider the impact of your communication style on those around you. How does the balance of speaking and listening contribute to the depth of your connections? Recognising and fine-tuning this dynamic can elevate the quality of our interactions.

Finding Balance: The Art of Meaningful Communication

As we navigate the week ahead, let’s embark on a journey of self-reflection. Explore the delicate balance between speaking and listening in your own life. Notice the moments when silence can speak volumes and when words can weave threads of connection.

Challenge yourself to practice active listening, not merely as a pause between your words but as a genuine effort to understand and connect with others. Observe the shifts in dynamics and how this intentional approach can transform the way you communicate.

Share Your Insights: Engage in the Conversation!

 

“You have to listen with a heart.

You have to listen with a generosity.

You have to listen without judgment.

And you have to listen without any type of personal agenda.”

– Deepak Chopra –

I invite you to share your thoughts and experiences on this subject. How do you navigate the dynamics of speaking and listening in your own life? Have you observed the silent power of listening in your interactions?

Feel free to leave a comment on the blog. Let’s engage in a meaningful conversation as we collectively explore the depths of effective communication.

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Wishing you a week filled with meaningful connections!

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive! 

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I trust this email finds you well and thriving. Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “Anchoring Your EXACT Success Story“ which was all about how to set exciting and challenging goals. The “EXACT” model I shared with you differs to “SMART” in that it includes these 2 crucial elements (which SMART does not). I hope this was helpful and you are already on your way towards achieving your goals! If you haven’t had the chance to see this yet, you can catch up below.

When people delve into the realm of effective communication, it’s common to encounter principles like “The 5 C’s”—clear, concise, concrete, correct, and coherent. While these guidelines offer a solid foundation for verbal expression, they present only a fraction of the intricate mosaic that is effective communication.

In my journey of exploring and understanding communication, it becomes apparent that the most prevalent misconception lays in reducing communication to a checklist of how we speak. Effective communication, however, is an art that extends beyond the spoken word; it encompasses a myriad of components that contribute to the richness of human connection.

Communication Beyond Words:

The 5 C’s primarily focus on verbal articulation, but effective communication is a dynamic interplay between spoken and unspoken elements. Body language, facial expressions, and the energy we convey all contribute to the message we communicate.

The Harmony of Understanding:

At its core, communication is about understanding and being understood. It involves active listening, the ability to empathise, and a keen awareness of the emotional nuances within a conversation. True connection arises when individuals feel heard and valued.

Authenticity and Emotional Intelligence:

Authentic communication involves expressing oneself genuinely and being attuned to the emotions of others. Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in navigating the subtle currents of human interaction, fostering deeper connections.

The Impact of our Words:

While the words we choose don’t carry as much impact as body language and tone of voice, they still shape perceptions, influence emotions, and leave lasting impressions. So, effective communication requires mindfulness in choosing words that resonate with authenticity and respect for diverse perspectives.

So, as we move forward, let’s move beyond the confines of the 5 C’s and embrace the holistic nature of communication, where every interaction becomes an opportunity to connect on a profound level. Join me in unravelling the true heartbeat of effective communication – beyond the checklist, beyond the spoken word.

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“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”

-Maya Angelou-

[Credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years, she received dozens of awards and more than 50 honorary degrees]

I will leave you with that thought.

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive! 

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Firstly, I wish you a very happy and successful 2024!

Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “The Courage to Soar in 24!“ and I trust this year will start on a positive note as you continue honing your ability to reclaim more control over your life, and skilfully crafting a narrative that aligns with your authentic self. May your journey be filled with empowerment and self-discovery!

If you haven’t had the chance to see it yet, you can catch up on this and all my previous blogs below.

Last time we explored how, as one year draws to an end and another begins, we tend to reflect and set fresh objectives for the coming year. I recently shared insights on a goal-setting approach that captivates me for its invigorating and challenging nature — the concept of establishing EXACT goals:

Explicit

Xciting

Assessible

Challenging

Time-framed

Many of our goals are determined, perhaps unwittingly, by the agenda of others or by pressures upon us to be something we are not. The EXACT model helps people to identify objectives which are congruent with their own values and performance style. They also help us to set a goal (according to the above parameters) that provides energy and focus, and keeps people motivated in order to achieve what we may not have thought possible.

Therefore, it is key for us to create our objectives and narrative going forward that aligns with who we are, our values and life goals.

So, this week’s thought for the week is short and sweet! If you have already set your 2024 goals, could I suggest that you compare these with EXACT to ensure that all of these parameters are covered? If you haven’t yet, I’d like to invite you to create your own EXACT goals for 2024!

It is said that the time period required to break an old habit is six weeks with a further six to ingrain a new one. So, we need to remain firmly anchored to the outcome we want, keep motivated and give ourselves time.

These are YOUR goals so they have to be super-meaningful to YOU!

If you would like to explore this further with me, book a Complimentary Discovery Call with me HERE to see how I can help. I can guarantee that you will leave the session with more clarity on where you are and want to get to. There is no obligation at all to continue.

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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson-

[An American essayist, poet, and popular philosopher]

May the coming year unfold with an abundance of thrilling adventures and opportunities to embrace your true self. As you step into the possibilities of the year ahead, cultivate daring aspirations that push your boundaries and resonate with your passions.

With warmest wishes,

Korinne Le Page

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!

Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “Breaking Free from Controlled Narratives” about how when we define our own narrative (rather than that of others) we not only empower ourselves, we also communicate far more authentically and powerfully.

If you haven’t had the chance to see it yet, you can catch up on this and all my previous blogs HERE.

As we approach a new year, many of us are reflecting on the past year and what we would ideally like to happen in the future.

I have been reflecting and have started writing a book, which is something I have wanted to do for a long time. As you will be aware, I enjoy writing – hence these “Thoughts for the Week”! So, now, am channelling all of these thoughts into my book and will let you know the title when it is done!

Last week, I spoke about the “Jonathan Livingston Seagull (JLS)” book. As we think about new beginnings in 2024, I’d like to share the significance of this book when I began my coaching and training business. Back then, I called it “Development Unlimited” because I believe that if we really want to achieve something, we can do it.

My logo was a seagull – a metaphor of Jonathan Livingston Seagull’s journey, that, as penned by Richard Bach, serves as a poignant reminder of the freedom that comes with embracing our true selves. Jonathan’s pursuit of flight was not merely about defying gravity; it was a quest to break free from the constraints that society, even his own flock, sought to impose. His story encourages us to question limitations and embrace the boundless potential within.

Even though my business has now evolved into “Thrive Coaching & Training” and my logo is a sunflower made up of 4 hearts, the essence of JLS lives on!

In a world often clouded by external expectations and societal norms, unveiling authenticity requires a conscious effort to look beyond the surface. It beckons us to question the narratives that surround us and explore the depths of our values, passions, and aspirations.

Authenticity isn’t just a buzzword; it’s an invitation to live in alignment with our inner truth and it’s a courageous act to rewrite the script!

So, I invite you to reflect on moments when the script seemed dictated by external forces. These instances, though challenging, are windows of opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Jonathan’s journey echoes the sentiment that rewriting the script is not just a courageous act but a necessary one. It’s about reclaiming authorship over our lives and crafting a narrative that resonates with our authentic selves.

Jonathan Livingston Seagull’s wisdom extends beyond the pages of a book; it echoes in the very core of our existence. His call to look beyond limitations and to “know what we can do in the air” inspires us to transcend perceived boundaries. It’s a beacon urging us to believe in the freedom to be ourselves, unapologetically and authentically.

As we navigate the year ahead, let’s carry Jonathan’s spirit with us. Let’s continue our journey of self-discovery and embrace the freedom to be authentically ourselves.

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”Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

-Steve Jobs-

Wishing you a year filled with new adventures, the courage to rewrite your script and the freedom to be authentically you.

With warmest wishes,

Korinne Le Page – Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!

I trust this email finds you well and in good spirits. Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “Context Matters ” about creating meaningful communication through listening, understanding, and responding thoughtfully.

If you haven’t had the chance to see it yet, you can catch up on this and all my previous blogs below.

In the hustle and bustle of our lives, how often do we take a moment to reflect on the narratives that shape our experiences?

This week, I invite you to join me in exploring the concept of controlling narratives and the liberating power of embracing our true, authentic selves. In a world where external forces often attempt to dictate our stories, it becomes crucial to recognise the strength within us to break free from these imposed narratives.

Whether it’s societal expectations, peer pressure, or the desire for external validation, we all encounter moments when the script seems to be written by others. However, the thought for this week encourages us to reclaim authorship over our lives.

Consider the moments when you felt compelled to conform to “societal norms” or when external influences tried to define your identity.

These instances, though challenging, can offer opportunities for growth and self-discovery. By acknowledging our unique experiences, perspectives, and aspirations, we pave the way for an authentic narrative that reflects the true essence of who we are.

So, let’s challenge ourselves to question the narratives that surround us …

• Are they aligned with our values, passions, and aspirations?
• Are we living a story that resonates with our authentic selves?

It’s a journey of self-reflection and, at times, a courageous act of rewriting the script to better align with our inner truth.

As we navigate the week ahead, how about striving to be the authors of our own stories, embracing the authenticity that comes with defining our narrative? In doing so, we not only empower ourselves and communicate far more powerfully, we also contribute to a world where diverse stories coexist, enriching the tapestry of the human experience.

Have you ever read the book; “Jonathan Livingstone Seagull” by Richard Bach?

He spoke of very simple things- that it is right for a gull to fly, that freedom is the very nature of his being, that whatever stands against that freedom must be set aside, be it ritual or superstition or limitation in any form. “Set aside,” came a voice from the multitude, “even if it be the Law of the Flock?” “The only true law is that which leads to freedom,” Jonathan said. “There is no other.

Why, Jon, why?” his mother asked. “Why is it so hard to be like the rest of the flock, Jon? Why can’t you leave low flying to the pelicans, the albatross? Why don’t you eat? Son, you’re bone and feathers!” “I don’t mind being bone and feathers mom. I just want to know what I can do in the air and what I can’t, that’s all. I just want to know.

For most gulls it was not flying that matters, but eating. For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but flight.

Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you’ll see the way to fly …

“You have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now, and nothing can stand in your way”

– Jonathan Livingston Seagull –

[From the Book: Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach]

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Wishing you a week filled with self-discovery and the freedom to be authentically you.

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!

I trust this post finds you well and thriving this week. I wanted to circle back to last week’s Thought for the Week, “Beyond Words – The Essence of Communication Mastery” about what makes a good communicator and creates meaningful dialogue.

If you haven’t had the chance to see it yet, you can catch up on this and all my previous blogs below.

This week, I found myself reflecting on communication experiences, particularly observing the dynamics in political discourse. The contrast between parliamentary speeches and everyday conversations sparked some intriguing thoughts I’d like to share with you.

Now, I’m not getting into politics here, rather shedding light on the communication aspect.

I notice that, when addressing the house, politicians often seize a limited window to express their views, typically without the opportunity for any genuine two-way dialogue. However, stepping outside the formal setting provides a chance for more fruitful interactions. The question is, how many embrace this opportunity for authentic conversations?

Living in Guernsey, a smaller community, gives us the chance to interact with our local representatives, known as ‘Deputies.’

Eloquence in the house might be their forte, but a different skill set is required for smaller meetings or one-to-one conversations. The essence lies in the ability to adapt the communication style to the context and win the hearts and minds of people.

However, when figures of authority control the narrative without fostering a genuine exchange, what outcomes can we expect?

In both public life and the workplace, the value of active listening, genuine interest, and responsive actions cannot be overstated. When someone in a position of authority takes the time to inquire about our thoughts, listens actively, and communicates their intentions or actions, it fosters a sense of engagement and connection.

It’s a reminder that, regardless of our roles, the heart of meaningful communication lies in creating spaces for genuine dialogue. As we navigate our own communication landscapes, let’s be mindful of the power that lies in listening, understanding, and responding thoughtfully.

Feel free to share your thoughts or experiences on this subject—it’s always enriching to learn from one another.

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

-George Bernard Shaw-

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Wishing you a week filled with insightful reflections and transformative conversations.

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!

I trust your week is unfolding with positive energy. Last week, we ventured into the realm of “Communication Alchemy: Turning Discord into Harmony,” exploring the potential for growth and stronger relationships within conflicts.

If you missed this insightful journey, catch up on this and previous reflections below.

Now, let’s revisit our exploration of communication mastery and unravel the layers a bit further. What truly defines a good communicator? Is it eloquence, precision in articulation, or the ability to listen? In our ongoing “Thoughts for the Week,” we’ve embarked on a journey challenging conventional notions.

1. Beyond the Spoken Word: Effective communication goes beyond eloquence. It’s about connection, turning words into brushstrokes, crafting a masterpiece of genuine understanding. A good communicator resonates with their audience, ensuring shared understanding.

2. The Power of Active Listening: In the symphony of communication, active listening is the unsung hero. A good communicator not only expresses ideas coherently but also listens attentively. Genuine curiosity builds bridges of understanding, creating a space for diverse perspectives to harmonise.

3. Authenticity as a Beacon: Authenticity guides a good communicator. Expressing oneself genuinely builds trust and rapport. Aligning words with true intentions creates a powerful connection.

4. Tailoring the Message: Recognising that communication isn’t ‘one-size-fits-all’ sets a masterful communicator apart. Adapting the message to the audience ensures meaningful and impactful communication. Flexibility allows for dynamic exchanges of ideas.

5. Empathy as a Compass: Navigating emotions with empathy fosters compassionate communication. Connecting at a deeper level acknowledges the humanity in every interaction.

6. The Art of Non-Verbal Communication: Words are just one brush in the palette. A good communicator understands non-verbal cues, adding depth and richness to the conversation.

7. Clarity in Expression: Clarity is the cornerstone. A good communicator strives for simplicity, ensuring the intended message is clear and unambiguous.

In conclusion, the essence of a good communicator lays in the ability to foster connection, cultivate understanding, and navigate the intricacies of human interaction with finesse. It blends spoken words, active listening, authenticity, adaptability, empathy, non-verbal cues, and clarity into a symphony of communication mastery.

As we reflect on our own communication styles, let us aspire to be like artists who paint conversations with colours of connection, understanding, and authenticity!

“Beyond words, communication mastery is the ability to convey thoughts through the silent eloquence of understanding.”

-Dalai Lama-

“Mastering communication is not about having a silver tongue; it’s about weaving a tapestry of understanding that transcends language.”

-Nelson Mandela-

With warmest wishes for a week of many insightful reflections and transformative conversations,

I trust your week is off to a great start. In our exploration last week on “Navigating Shifting Tides in the Digital Era,” we delved into the importance of building genuine connections through effective communication. If you missed it, you can catch up on this and all my previous blogs below.

Brené Brown’s insightful words from last week resonate deeply for me: “Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued.” In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, how often do we create such moments?

Consider this: How intentionally do we enable others to feel seen, heard, and valued?

While we cannot control how others perceive our actions and words, we can shape our intentions in communication. When our aim is positive, and our delivery reflects that positivity, we’ve done our best—the rest lies in the other person’s perspective.

But what if someone misunderstands us or takes offense?

The key is to stay connected with our positivity, affirm our good intentions, and maintain calmness. If appropriate, inviting the other person to share their thoughts and feelings while we listen without defensiveness is crucial. Summarising what they’ve shared not only demonstrates active listening but also diffuses many situations.

In cases where unintentional offense occurred, acknowledging that fact and expressing regret for any upset caused can go a long way.

Ultimately, it’s vital to rely on what I call; “Our Internal Barometer” – knowing our intentions were good.

Conflict is often viewed as something to be avoided, yet it presents an opportunity for improvement. Brushing it aside can lead to festering issues that grow beyond their actual scope.

“Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth—or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. 

The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them.”

-Kenneth Cloke [Mediator and author]

I leave you with that thought.

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Wishing you insightful conversations and meaningful connections.

With warmest wishes,

Thrive Coaching & Training – Empowering you to Thrive!