Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “Challenge & Excitement” all about being creative and realistic about our strategy and goals whilst being exciting and stretching us!

You can see all of my blogs below.

So, by now, I am sure you will have a plan that you feel inspired by and anchored to, because that’s what we need as professionals isn’t it? To be anchored to a strategy in a fluid way that allows movement to go with the flow, whilst keeping us steady on our course.

I like to use this metaphor of an anchor too when it comes to our working and personal relationships and how we interact with each other.

The ‘anchor’ is whatever the relationship is about and what holds us together. And of course, the degree of this will vary between more professional and personal relationships.

Have you thought about what anchors you in each of your relationships?

• Loved ones
• Social friends
• Colleagues
• Team
• Clients
• Service partners, etc.

How we interact with each of these people in our lives, will depend on what anchors us to each other and the level of trust between us.

It’s an interesting exercise to think about this level of trust you have with each person on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being high).

Then think about how you communicate differently depending on that level of trust?

I’d love to know what you think so please let me know!

l invite you to book a free consultation with me if you’d like to explore this further. Choose your slot HERE 

“When the Trust Account is high, communication is easy, instant and effective”
-Stephen Covey-

I will leave you on that note and will post again soon with more thoughts and tips.

With best wishes,
Korinne

Last week’s Thought for the Week was; “About Business Trends” and how, by tapping into creativity, individuals and organisations will be the trend-setters and lead the way.

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We can feel under pressure to start each year with some kind of major declaration and mission for the year to come can’t we!

A new year gives us a clean slate in many ways and a chance to refresh our thinking and revisit outdated habits, processes etc.

We know all about New Year’s resolutions! They can be very positive and at the same time can be unrealistic and set us up for a sense of failure if we don’t fulfil them.

So what’s the answer?

Personally, I like to take an objective ‘helicopter view’ of my life, my business, my strategy.

I then look at how that dovetails with what’s happening in the World and how effective I am in helping people to get results right now …

• What am I doing that’s really working and should leave as it is?
• What do I need to tweak or change and why?
• What smaller and realistic steps can I take to make changes?

Then I tap into my creativity to think outside the box and come up with fresh ideas around how I move forward.

When it comes to setting goals, we are all familiar with “SMART Goals” (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely).

Well I introduce my clients to another very simple model that also includes 2 very important elements that are not included in SMART. These are around our goals also being “Challenging” and “Exciting”!

If we don’t have these in the mix, we often don’t feel anchored to a goal and motivated enough to make it happen.

And when it comes to making changes, I have found that, rather than setting a “New Year’s Resolution”, making small and realistic changes and committing to these really does work.

I’d love to know what you think? Leave a post and let me know!

l invite you to book a consultation with me if you’d like to explore what you most want to achieve in 2023 and beyond. Choose your slot HERE 

“Creativity is seeing what everyone else has seen, and thinking what no one else has thought.”
-Albert Einstein-

“If you want creative workers, give them enough time to play.”
-John Cleese-

I will leave you on that note and will post again soon with more thoughts and tips.

With best wishes

 

 

 

 

I hope 2023 has started well for you! The last Thought for the Week I sent out was; “What Impact will you have in 2023?”

[You can see all of my blogs below].

“I happened to come along in the music business when there was no trend”

-Elvis Presley-

What trends have you noticed around business and how we work and communicate with those around us?

My clients range from Solopreneurs to leaders within larger organisations and they are telling me that things are changing hugely within their organisations, especially around recognising the relationships within an organisation and externally too and this takes time to build. A “one-size-fits-all” approach certainly does not apply!

The fast growth of the coaching business is credited to some of the best business trends emerging in recent years. And this is because it gives people space to think outside the box and come up with innovative and sustainable advantages.

Over time, with recent changes in our World, values and expectations have changed more than ever. You will know only too well how people are our greatest asset and, in turn, they are now expecting more from employers. No longer will they stick around if they don’t feel valued.

Teams are complex and diverse and it is so important to recognise the talent that diverse workforces can bring in. People need access to support and so leaders and entrepreneurs have had to grow and develop more than ever to acquire agile leadership skills to be the best they can be.

Many of my clients have recognised how invaluable Coaching is in developing a growth culture, and I’m talking about how they have learned to Coach effectively, as well as working with me as their Coach.

And the way Coaches are coaching has become more and more flexible; for instance, when my clients feel they are working on screens all day long, sometimes we go for a walk along the beach or in the park. This really helps them to expand their thinking and tap into their creativity.

I’m seeing clients looking more and more at how they can use coaching in areas where they have been unable to use it before. This is because they now recognise how powerful it is in helping people to find themselves and discover their power and confidence. And there are still many more areas where coaching is yet to have an impact.

Experimentation and collaboration over competition is happening more. This is because people are increasingly confident that what they bring to the table is adding real value.

When it comes to trends though, would you rather be the one to set trends or do you tend to follow them?

 

“Great things are not accomplished by those who yield to trends and fads and popular opinion”.

-Jack Kerouac-

[A pioneer and icon of the beat generation]

 

So, what initiatives are you pursuing to blaze your own trail towards the future?

There are companies who buy coaching packages for their people, and some organisations are training and nurturing their own internal pools of coaches who can help and support people within the workplace.

Either way, people are being encouraged to tap into their creativity, come up with ideas and forge the way!

Nowadays, around 60% of my clients are funded by their Company and 40% are self-funding as they see the incredible value in their self-growth.

l invite you to book a consultation with me to explore what you most want to achieve in 2023 and beyond, and how you can forge your own roadmap with your own unique stamp on it.

Choose your slot HERE 

“When looking at trends I always ask myself basic and timeless questions about business, and the one I seem to always come back to is, ‘How is this different than anything else in the marketplace?”

-Daymond John-

[Hip-hop fashion designer and founder and CEO of clothing label FUBU]

I will leave you on that note and will post again soon with more thoughts and tips.
With best wishes,

I wish you a very Happy New Year and I hope 2023 brings you all of the positive impact, success, good health and magic you wish for … and deserve.

The last Thought for the Week I sent out was; “Do you believe in Magic?” and I hope that brought at least a little sparkle to you!

[You can also see my “Thought for the Week” blogs below.

If you or your children are into Harry Potter, you will be familiar with the term “Magical Impact” and, how much impact has J.K. Rowling had on us and our families!

Now let’s face the truth about a New Year …

We’re all starry eyed with all the hopes of what a new year might bring. I spoke last week about believing in magic and we must.

At the same time, in what will seem like a blink of an eye, another 12 months will have whizzed by! And nothing will change … unless we do.

• If you are a business owner, is it time to get serious about scaling your business?
• If you are a leader, how will you elevate your leadership with all that well-earned wisdom and experience?
• How can you up the bar on how you communicate with impact as a professional?

If what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked for you, it won’t work for you now.

What’s working now – for professional people like you, is support that is customised for YOU, your goals, and your business model …

So, l invite you to book a complimentary one-to-one coaching session with me to explore how you can have more positive impact in your life in 2023 – choose a slot HERE 

“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique”.

-Martha Graham-

[Considered by People Magazine to be among the female “Icons of the Century.”]

I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips.

With best wishes,

I hope you had a magical Christmas, even in the smallest of ways, whatever you did and wherever you were.

The last Thought for the Week I sent out was; “The Power of Self-Compassion” and how looking after our own emotional, physical and mental well-being helps us withstand the challenges that life throws our way, and better support those around us.

You can read all of my previous blogs below. 

Something reignited in me just after Christmas when I was with a friend. I was telling her how I was due to travel to France on Friday and sailings were being cancelled due to bad weather. And how I had a connecting flight from Rennes within hours of arrival.

At times like this, we can get stuck in our own head can’t we! So absorbed in looking at alternative options, we forget that positive and even magical things can also happen and to allow for that possibility!

She reminded me of this and I sent out a positive thought and trusted that somehow all would work out.

Within just 3 hours, guess what happened … I heard from the ferry company that a window in the weather was expected on Thursday, so they had put on an additional ferry that day (and the timing is actually much better as I arrive a day earlier in good time for the connecting flight!). How’s that for a little bit of magic!

Remember when you were a child and looked at life in total wonder and awe? Life was magical and exciting, and the smallest things were utterly thrilling to you; the frost on the grass, an unusual coloured butterfly or something like that.

When you lost a tooth, you were full of excitement because it meant the Tooth Fairy would be coming that night!

I would count down the days to Christmas Eve as, not only is it my birthday, I also looked forward to Santa Claus visiting on that magical night. Even though I had no idea how he could get to visit every child in the World in one night. somehow he managed it and never let us down!

As children, our imagination knew no limits and we believed that life was magical! And then we grew into adults and responsibilities and challenges took their toll on us.

Many of us became disillusioned, and the magic we once believed in as children evaporated. Perhaps that’s why as adults we love to be around children, so that we can experience that feeling we once had, even if it’s just for a moment?

As the year draws to a close and a new one approaches, how can you recapture at least some of that magic in your life?

What needs to change for that to happen for you?

The answer has to be something within you that has to shift. Whatever it is, are you ready to experience the magic again?

“Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it”
-Roald Dahl- (1916-1990)
[Writer]

As always, I will leave you with that thought!

If you would like to book a complimentary one-to-one coaching session with me to explore how you can create more magic in your life, you can book a slot HERE 

I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips.

With best wishes,

Korinne 

I hope you got something out of last week’s Thought for the Week; “The Communication Source” and to be a really good communicator, we have to manage our emotions first before we can put our communication techniques into practice.

I also write a “Thought for the Week” blog each week. You can read my previous blogs below.

As you know by now, I work as a Coach and Workshop Leader helping professional people to become even better communicators, even if they believe they are already doing well. We only become more self-aware that something is amiss when something doesn’t go so well, right?

Of course, different people will interpret the same sentence in different ways, even on different days depending how they feel at that time. So, we have no control over how people react to what we say.

What we can do though is check in with ourselves every now and then and gently notice our own communication styles in different scenarios. Because, as I wrote last week, this becomes a subconscious process and we tend to get into habits in the way we speak, ask questions, answer questions, listen, don’t listen etc.

And I say gently notice because we are only human and won’t always get it 100% right and judging ourselves harshly is very unlikely to improve the way we communicate. The same when others judge us harshly; we can clam up, avoid speaking up, become defensive and even lose our confidence.

When was the last time you stopped picking apart a project you’ve completed, and simply congratulated yourself for a job well done? Or, better yet, accepted a mistake you made without spending hours berating yourself?

The idea of devoting time to self-compassion feels self-indulgent. But actually, the opposite is true. Learning to look after our own emotional, physical and mental well-being helps us withstand the challenges that life throws our way, and better support those around us.

Self-compassion isn’t about letting yourself off the hook for difficult emotions and mistakes, or giving into your every whim. It’s about acknowledging the tough parts of life, and giving yourself the love you need to keep learning and moving forward.

“Transform your world by transforming your internal state. Start by learning to let go of negative self-judgment, and replace it with positive and loving thoughts about yourself. Be kind to yourself, and watch your external world change”.

-Anita Moorjani-

[Anita Moorjani is an international speaker and author of the New York Times bestseller “Dying to Be Me“]

As always, I will leave you with that thought!

Here is a free checklist for you: 10 Mistakes that could be stopping you from being a really good communicator

I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips on how you, and / or your team can be more effective communicators.

With best wishes,

I hope you enjoyed last week’s Thought for the Week; “Understanding Misunderstandings” about how to tap into our Emotional Intelligence when there is a misunderstanding so we can move forward in a positive way.

I also write a “Thought for the Week” blog each week – you can read my previous blogs below.

As you know, I work as a Coach and Workshop Leader helping professional people to communicate more effectively and overcome challenges so they can have more impact and success.

What has “Emotional Intelligence” got to do with communication you may ask! And that is a very good question …

You will have been on an at least one communication course at some point (and I lead these sessions too) and these are great … if they form part of a bigger plan.

“The emotional landscape of leadership is untapped and underdeveloped. Typically, leadership energy focuses on the efficiency of managerial operations. There is ample training on becoming productive but very little on integrating our emotional data toward competency within the landscape of commerce.”
-Dr. Rob Murray-

[CEO and co-founder of Transformed Leader, a leadership research, coaching, and consulting company that helps mission-driven organizations and leaders overcome their greatest challenges.]

When Clients ask me to run an in-house programme, I first ask questions to understand what strategy they have in place to support the ongoing development of participants. Because learning communication tools and new tips and techniques are just one part of achieving great communication!

I know this because I have been doing this for a very long time and have seen what a challenge it can be for people to communicate in the most effective way for themselves, especially if they are unaware of what’s getting in the way.

I say “for themselves” because Communication is not a ‘one size fits all!

And that’s where Emotional Intelligence (EQ) comes into it. And that is often the part that people believe they don’t need!

“Courageous engagement with the heart activates change. Feelings grant us the chance to connect meaningfully with our world.

What begins as emotional science leads us inexorably to integration, building emotional capacity and resiliency.”
-Dr. Rob Murray-

The human subconscious mind is more amazing then we could ever imagine and there will be things about your mind that you know, and things that you don’t know or understand.

You will know that science has established that the subconscious mind controls 95% of our life, including every physical movement, the decisions we make and actions we take, our emotions and behaviours.

So, our subconscious mind is always awake and never sleeps when we do because it controls all vital functions in our body, e.g., our heartbeat, blood circulation etc. While we are asleep, our conscious mind becomes dormant while our subconscious mind is active.

Science has also proven that we still hear and process everything in our mind while asleep.

You will have formed daily habits; your morning routine, how you travel around, what and when you eat, sleep, exercise etc. These have become second nature.

It’s the same with how we tend to communicate and our subconscious mind is operating in the background.

But the thing is, how do we know what we need to change when we are locked into these habits we have established?

That’s where EQ comes in. If we want to change the way we communicate, we have to be aware of our habit or tendency and consciously choose to do something differently.

For instance; if apprehension holds us back in the way we communicate, we can acknowledge that (we are human!) and then decide to try something different this time (using our EQ to overcome it and our conscious mind to change that habit).

Because, to be a really good communicator, we have to manage our emotions first before we can put our communication techniques into practice.

And that is where there has to be a stage that happens after we learn something new so we can dovetail it all together, whether that be Coaching or whatever support we have in place. That way, your new habits will become part of your subconscious mind operating in the background!

“To understand something, you must go to the source. In this case, the source is you. The source of the ability to unbury all of your past programming and realign with your true self. To awaken from a single mind, to the soul driving this whole thing on the inside.”
-Erin Dinsmore-

[Producer, Screenwriter, Content Creator, e.g., How to Be a Human Being]

As always, I will leave you with that thought!

If you would like to have a complimentary one-to-one coaching session with me to explore this further, you can book a slot HERE

I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips on how you, and / or your team can be more effective communicators.

With best wishes,
Korinne 

P.S. Check out The Communication Code

#communication #coaching #people #business

I hope you enjoyed last week’s Thought for the Week; “The Authenticity Paradox” which was all about aligning what we say and what we do with what we believe and knowing when not to over-share.

You can read my previous blogs below.

Personally, I used to be a people-pleaser and worried about saying things that might upset people. After years of tying myself in knots over this, the penny finally dropped when I realised that I had no control over whether people were upset by anything I said.

I could say the same thing to 100 different people and each person would have their own interpretation. All I could do was to be respectful and clear about what I wanted to say and the rest was up to them!

How freeing was that? HUGELY!

You probably already learned this too. At the same time, and I don’t know about you, but I know plenty of people who struggle with it.

Of course, in most cases, the majority of us don’t set out to upset people and if someone is upset by something we said, we probably feel mortified … and misunderstood!

As human beings, we have multiple levels of communication, through …

• Our words
• Our tone of voice
• Our body language
• Our actions
• Our emotions
• Our sensed communication and expression.

So, how to respond when someone is upset?

1. Take a deep breath and stay calm! Just sit with that person and be present. Acknowledge that it’s human to be upset at times.
2. Approach them on a heart-to-heart level (people tend to be more comfortable using logic in these situations and focussing on feelings will have a more successful outcome when someone is emotional)
3. Avoid starting a question with “Why” as it tends to come across as judgemental and more likely to exacerbate the situation. So, avoid asking “why are you upset?” At the same time, we must do more than ask the question “How do you feel?”
4. Pick up on their signals and ask yourself what is this person conveying about their feelings in all of the above bullet points, their body language, actions etc? Also ask yourself what you are noticing in yourself about your own feelings.
5. Ask them what do they need most right now.
6. If they are angry with and blaming you, try not to react or get defensive (you know you can’t control their emotions). Just listen to them and let them get it out. Only when they have finished, ask them whether you could explain from your side. If you find yourself feeling angry because they are angry, this is where your Emotional Intelligence comes into play! If you can stay calm, acknowledge their feelings and listen to them before you respond (calmly), you will help that person to become less emotional and more logical again.

Yes, we have probably been misunderstood if someone is upset by something we said because we didn’t mean it that way. Because we can’t control how another person feels, all we can do is to tap into our own Emotional Intelligence and help them to tap into theirs.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the seat of really effective communication once we master it …

“Emotional Intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behaviour, navigate social complexities and make personal decisions that achieve positive results” – Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves-

“We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us – how we can take it, what we do with it- and that is what really counts in the end.”

-Joseph Fort Newton-

[Author of “The Builders”]

As always, I will leave you with that thought!

If you would like to have a complimentary one-to-one coaching session with me to explore this further, you can book a slot here: http://www.calendly.com/korinne/30min

I will be in touch again with posting more thoughts and tips on how you, and / or your team can be more effective communicators.

With best wishes,
Korinne 
P.S. Check out The Communication Code

#communication #coaching #people #business

I hope you enjoyed last week’s Thought for the Week; “To Dare or not to Dare?” which was all about letting go of the image we portray externally so we can dare to be ourselves.

I also write a “Thought for the Week” blog each week which you can read below.

And the shocking thing is that, once we can overcome any fears and make that choice, it’s actually much easier to be our true authentic selves than have to play a role. That’s exhausting.

And if you have worked through this yourself, you will already know this!

That’s not to say that we shouldn’t be a little cautious about what we reveal about ourselves and how vulnerable we are – it’s all about getting the right balance in each situation we are in.

For instance; in a social situation where we are with loved ones and close friends whom we trust, we will find it much easier to be ourselves. Whereas, if we go to a party where we don’t know people very well, of course, we will be a little more guarded.

At work, again if we are with colleagues we trust and know well, we will be more open and feel we can be ourselves.

Until we get our heads around all this, it is less comfortable for us to communicate authentically and confidently.

We express ourselves through speaking, writing, body language, creative endeavours (such as art and innovation), and our general demeanour. Often, however, how we express ourselves on the outside isn’t how we feel on the inside. In other words, our self-expression is inhibited or inauthentic.

At the same time, there is a clear line between being authentic and over-sharing because sharing personal problems has become a lot more socially acceptable.

To be an authentic person, what we say and what we do must align with what we believe.

And THIS is the seat of really effective communication once we master it.

 

“Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.”

-Dau Voire-

[One of the top Health Influencers in the UK].

 

And I will leave you with that thought.

If you would like to have a complimentary one-to-one coaching session with me to explore this further, you can book a slot HERE

I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips on how you, and / or your team can be more effective communicators.

With best wishes,

Korinne 

P.S. Check out The Communication Code

I hope you enjoyed last week’s Thought for the Week; “The Masked Ball of Life” about how we can present ourselves in the way we want to be seen and to avoid judgement, pain or whatever.

You can read my previous blogs here.

To continue this theme …

OK, we know that we can protect ourselves by presenting to others what we want them to see … at the same time, how can we not lose our true selves in the process?

Being genuine and authentic about our views and opinions can seem risky in certain situations and yet, we can have our most profound success in these moments!

Why is this?

Let me share this with you …

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

-Brené Brown-

[Leadership expert with top-selling books and a very popular podcast].

And I will leave you with that thought.

If you would like to have a complimentary one-to-one coaching session with me, there is absolutely no obligation. After 30 minutes, you will have gained more clarity and insight on how you communicate and what to do and also what not to do about it! You can book a slot HERE 

I will be in touch again with more thoughts and tips on how you, and / or your team can be more effective communicators.

With best wishes,
Korinne 
P.S. Check out The Communication Code