In last week’s Thought for the Week, I told you about how was about how “My Boss Changed my Life”! You can find previous posts here in my Blog.

 

Because my boss at that time, Carolyne listened to me, believed in me, empowered me and made me feel like an equal, I am now doing what I do all these years later and for me, I am blessed to feel like this …

As you know, I work with Business Owners and Leaders and empower them to communicate authentically so they have more impact and thrive in their lives.

So, HOW do I help them to achieve that?

Through personal development and coaching.

Now, I want to dispel a myth about Coaching and this is important because this is how my ex-boss Carolyne made such a difference to me … 

The successful manager as coach, doesn’t do the work for the client. They allow them to do the work, so they build their understanding, self-awareness, confidence, and self-esteem.

The successful career coach doesn’t write a resume for their client – instead, they ask their client to write a history of their professional accomplishments.

This takes longer, and it’s more challenging in certain ways. But what this approach does is it actually empowers the other person more.

This is Coaching.

So, you may well ask;

“So, if a Coach isn’t going to tell me what to do, why would I have coaching then?”

Well, let’s look at what Mentoring is …

What’s the difference between Coaching and Mentoring?

We would have a mentor if we need guidance on what we should do. This may be when we are new in a role, or we want up scale-up a business for example. Then we would have a mentor who is an exert in that specific field and they will tell us what to do.

So, you can see the difference.

Last week, I left you with this quote:

“Good Leadership is an opportunity to bring someone back to their own mind, to show them how good they can be”

-Nancy Kline-

And here is an excerpt from another piece that Nancy Kline wrote about Coaching … 

“Many coaches say that the purpose of coaching is to take clients from where they are now to where they want to be. 

Many say in the next breath that, in organisations, the purpose of coaching is to take clients from where they are now to where the sponsor wants them to be. 

Hearteningly, a few say that the purpose of coaching is for clients to think. 

Given that the quality of everything our clients do depends on the quality of the thinking they do first, generating a client’s finest thinking is surely the point of it all. I would go further, though. I would say that the purpose of coaching is for clients to think – for themselves. 

For themselves changes everything.

For themselves requires new expertise.

For themselves startles us into seeing that if we look in the wrong place, we find the wrong thing. 

Second by second as we coach, we could hold in our minds the question … 

‘How far can this person go in their own productive, original thinking before they need mine? And how much further than that? And how much further even than that can they go for themselves before they need my thinking?’ 

And, we could decide to hear the answer to; ‘How far can they go?’ Far. Far”.

By the way, if you would like to sample Coaching for yourself, you can book a completely complimentary Coaching Session HERE

“After my first session with Korinne I identified what my key message is and where I want my business to go. She has a natural ability to connect with you and asks the right questions to find out what you are hoping to achieve. Her coaching skills are brilliant and I highly recommend her. Thanks, Korinne, you have really made a difference in my life!”–Ali Monjack – 4TheNow Media Nov 21- Website: www.4TN.co.uk

I have a Coach myself and every successful Business Owner and Leader will do for the reasons I have given. And every one of us will say it really has changed our lives and continues to do so.

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes for your success,

Korinne

P.S. Ask me about the next Communication Code Group Programme

Korinne Le Page
Thrive Coaching & Training
www.Thrive-Coaching.biz
www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

 

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “Owning It” which I hope you found thought-provoking!

I mentioned that I used to be shy and had a fear of speaking in front of people, even though I met hundreds of people a day working in Customer Service for British Airways (on the ground).

I had been working as Duty Manager in the Lost Baggage department for around 3 years when one day my boss, called Carolyne, came to tell me that a job had come up in the BA Training Department and she believed I should go for it.

Well, I said; “Hmm! Have you forgotten how terrified I am every time I have to do a presentation in front of people?”

Because Carolyne listened to me, believed in me, empowered me and made me feel like an equal, I applied for the job and was successful. Of course, my fear didn’t go away and I wondered what I had done!

Well, I hope you can remember a time when someone who was a boss, a teacher, scout leader, Brown Owl or whatever changed your life too!

My first assignment was to write a Stress Management Programme for the airline that would be delivered world-wide. Because I was training to be a counsellor at the time with the BA Employee Assistance Programme, his was in my comfort zone. Step 1 was accomplished.

Even though I still had nerves about delivering training sessions, I realised that I was so much more confident when I delivered my own training material. I had ownership. It was when I had to learn something new and deliver it that the fear really kicked in.

However, I overcame it and was managing a team of trainers world-wide and then Training Account Manager for the UK Airports. One of my projects was training staff across the UK in ticketless travel when it first arrived in the UK. (How did we manage before when we had paper tickets!)

Then on 01 Jan 2022, I started my own Training Company!

So, thank you Carolyne! Today we are the leaders that people will remember tomorrow who made a big difference to their lives.

“Good Leadership is an opportunity to bring someone back to their own mind, to show them how good they can be”

-Nancy Kline-

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

By the way, The Communication Code Group Coaching Programme has started with a lovely group of Business Owners and Leaders and all is going very well.

With best wishes,
Korinne 

P.S. Ask me about the next Communication Code Group Programme

P.P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “That is a Great Question” which I hope you found thought and question-provoking!

Share your thoughts too.

We know that asking great questions helps us and others to understand better, and also enables us to understand ourselves. And there’s a real science to asking great questions.

The thing is, how can we ask a very powerful and thought-provoking question if first we don’t listen?

If we want to feel empowered and be taken seriously, another very important factor is – and you are probably already doing this, even if you don’t realise it – is “”Owning it!!

I learned this one when I was much shyer than I am now. I realised that I was playing safe and resisting holding my head above the parapet because it seemed safer to go with the opinions of others, rather than voice my own.

Hmmm …. that was a real biggie when I stepped out of my comfort zone there for the first time! But it was a momentous lightbulb moment for me.

Suddenly, people wanted to hear what I had to say! They were interested and I felt so much more empowered to stand in my own space and that’s when I took the plunge and started my own business.

This may seem hard to believe – I used to be shy!

Despite my shyness (and overcoming my fear of speaking in front of people), I had been training people world-wide for British Airways on communication skills, assertiveness, leadership, customer service, wellbeing etc.

And one of the key tools I covered in most of these programmes was …

The “I” Statement!

You may well have heard this and before I go into it, I want to first ask you a question:

How do you feel when another person starts a sentence with “You ……”?

For instance;

“You forgot to do that”

“You always do that”

Do you immediately feel like you have a bull’s eye attached to your forehead?

Like you have to be on the defensive?

Well, that’s where the “I” Statement comes in.

 

It’s all about intentionally starting our sentences with “I” and owning it!

For instance;

“I thought the seminar went well because ….”

“I’m feeling uneasy about that option”

“I would prefer it’s done this way”

“I’m going to have to say no”

What’s the difference between that and starting sentences with “You ….”?

• “I” Statements are among the most powerful you can make.
• Using “I” is the hallmark of Assertiveness.
• You are affirming who you are and what you want.

Looking at the above letter “ I ” think of it like a PILLAR that strengthens  your impact and authority, supporting everything you say and stand for.

It is about accountability …

“Accountability is the measure of a leader’s height”

-Jeffrey Benjamin-

[Jeffrey D. Benjamin occupies the position of Chairman for A-Mark Precious Metals, Inc. and Chairman at ImOn Communications LLC.]

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. Ask me about The Communication Code Group Programme starting soon!

P.P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “Hitting the Reset Button” which I hope you found thought-provoking. Even if you get a tiniest seed of thought from these weekly emails, then that is my aim. All my previous posts can be seen below.

Naturally, we all want to be the best version of ourselves and enjoy our best possible life and not to repeat any out-dated patterns of the past! As Albert Einstein famously said;

“If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got”

And, after the past 2 years, we all expect more from life now and look for more meaning now than before. So, humanity is going through a huge shift right now.

Last week, I suggested asking yourself questions to explore what your heart truly wants and to visualise your greatest desire and that exploring what our heart wants actually helps our brain to make it happen!

How many times can you remember someone asking you a really great question that made you really think deeper about something? What impact did that have on you?

How many times have you asked a question and that person said: “That’s a great Question”?

Asking great questions helps others to understand better, and there is a real science to asking great questions.

You will probably know about open and closed questions, leading questions, which is great. There is a time to ask an open question and a time to ask a closed one.

But there is so much more to questions than that because in order to ask great questions, first we have to listen. And many people think they are good listeners and many are and at the same time, many are not.

How can we ask a very powerful and thought-provoking question if first we don’t listen?

And that means parking our own agenda on the shelf in that moment so we can focus on the other person.

In reality, how often does that actually happen? When someone asks us a question and then gives us space to think?

This is a huge topic and one that I am passionate about – I train people to become certified coaches and this is one of the first things they learn about. Without exception, I see the scales fall from their eyes when they start to really understand what good listening is and how important it is to ask great questions!

So, asking a great question comes from great listening and then listening to their answer, asking another great question and so on until a lightbulb flashes on for that person.

I said earlier that asking great questions is a science, well here is a famous quote:

“The scientist is not a person who gives the right answers, They are the one who asks the right questions.”–Claude Levi-Strauss-

As always I will leave that with that thought.

Lastly, I am going to send you a tool shortly that changed my life when I was at that point years ago when I felt anxious about the future. So, look out for this landing in your inbox!

With best wishes,
Korinne 

P.S. Ask me about The Communication Code Group Programme starting soon!

P.P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE

I wish you a very Happy New Year and hope that 2022 brings you and your loved ones happiness, good health and success in whatever you do.

In the hours leading up to midnight, I reflected on 2021 and how it had been for me. As many of you will have at some point in your lives, I have experienced some very challenging times up until the past 2 years or so.

For me, 2021 was a great year … after waiting 10 years, my divorce was finalised, I was able to sell property in England so I can buy a place in Guernsey, business has grown exponentially in so many ways. So, it was important to reflect and appreciate all of this and set intentions and wishes before starting a new year.

Last week’s Thought for the Week was about “The Reality of Connecting with Others” – you can see all previous posts here in my blog.

I had hoped to see the new year in with my partner in France, but was unable to go with the latest travel restrictions. So, yes I really missed being with my partner and the friends we were due to see the New Year in with and it brought home again that strong need for connection. I was able to spend New Year’s day though with my family which was great.

And as 2021 drew to a close, I am sure you all reflected on it in our own way and all that was good and not-so-good about it! I see a New Year as an opportunity to celebrate all of the good, learn from the not-so-good and start with a clean slate.

And not to repeat the patterns of the past!

Don’t we all want to be the best version of ourselves and enjoy our best possible life?

And we all want more meaning now in our lives than before don’t we!

Ask yourself questions and explore these very important things – now is the time! Ask your heart what you truly want.

Visualise that potential and your greatest desire. What will it look like and feel like? Exploring what our heart wants actually helps our brain to make it happen!

And this helps to build of your future.

What do you want to heal about your past?

I went through some pretty dark times which I have spoken about in some of my blogs. I learned that once I identified my ‘gremlins’ and faced them head-on, they lost their power over me and didn’t seem so dark anymore.

When we do this, we come more connected with who we are and this connects us with others in a much more meaningful way.

New Year’s resolutions are all well and good if they work for you.

If not, do you set some intentions around what you want to see happen this year? If so, don’t limit yourself and recognise any of those emotions and ‘gremlins’ that hold you back.

When we heal the wounds and shift unwanted physical, mental and emotional habits, we free ourselves from anything that is happening outside ourselves, such as other peoples’ drama.

So, then we free ourselves to become the real creators of our life!

As I launch my new Group Coaching Programme called “The Communication Code”, people are contacting me about the things they are struggling with and want to find more meaning and satisfying ways to communicate that minimise stress.

I also notice that more people than we may expect also struggle to admit to themselves (let alone others) that they are struggling with communication in some way.

It could be something like being able to say “No” and not feeling guilty about it. The ‘Art of Saying No’ is about HOW to say no in a genuine way while building on that connection with others in a positive way.

“It’s only by saying NO that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”

-Steve Jobs-

As you know, I have created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help people discover their natural and most effective communication style. And if you know anyone who you think would benefit, if you could let them know about it that would be great. You can find out more about it HERE 

Who is this for?

Established Leaders and Business Owners who are great at what they do, and they know that, but struggle to feel seen, to connect, have impact and enjoy the success they deserve.

This programme provides everything they need to become a better communicator.

Over 25 years, I have developed The Communication Code as a communication specialist.

And as an entrepreneur and leader, I have worked with people just like you so I understand the struggles.

It’s not that they are a failure, or an “imposter” – it’s because they haven’t yet learned how to revive their innate ability to communicate with openness and authenticity.

For this reason, I created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help leaders and business owners discover their natural and most effective communication style.

Because I am running this in a new online Group Coaching format for the first time starting on 20^th January, you will see that I am offering a very special rate with 30% off.

“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said”

-Peter Drucker-

So, we all have an opportunity to hit that RESET Button …

Revive your innate ability to communicate, build trust and rapport with others.

Elevate your personal effectiveness, power and influence in a positive way.

Select the platforms that match your communication style.

Empower others and yourself for greater impact and results.

Take Action and plan your road map to success.

Thank you for reading this right to the end and, as always I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. Why not start the year by booking a Complimentary Clarity Session! Click HERE 

Thrive Coaching & Training
www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

I hope you had a very enjoyable Christmas whatever you did, wherever you were and whoever you spent it with. I had a quiet one with my parents. My brother was going to do Christmas this year but unfortunately he got Covid. He has now tested negative, but is still feeling the after-effects.

It was also my birthday on Christmas Eve and of course it was much more low-key than in previous years with Covid lurking! For those of you who have a Christmas Birthday, you will know that in reality you share your day with everyone around you. So, I truly value all the wonderful people in my life who make it a special day that is different to Christmas.

Last week’s Thought for the Week which was all about “Connecting Virtually with Impact” and the week before was “Do You Ever Feel Invisible”?

And of course, these things are very much at the forefront of our minds this year, as they would have been the year before because we miss that connection with people we had before. I was going to write “normally”, but what is the reality of connecting “normally” with others these days?

We know that connecting with people is now proven by research to be good for our mood, and our physical and mental health.

• But what is “connecting”, really?
• What makes it so important?
• How can you tell if you are actually connecting with others?
• And what can you do if this is a constant struggle for you?

Psychologist Abraham Maslow’s famed “Hierarchy of Needs” places our need to feel connected with a sense of belonging as secondary only to our survival needs.

And research shows us that loneliness is on the rise, and that a lack of human connection can be more harmful to our health than obesity, smoking and high blood pressure.

Even before Covid, we lived busy lives, trying to strike a balance between work, school, hobbies, self-care. And nowadays, more than ever, our social connections fall by the wayside. But connecting with others is more important than many might think.

Social connection can lower anxiety and depression, help us regulate our emotions, lead to higher self-esteem and empathy, and actually improve our immune systems. By neglecting our need to connect, we put our health at risk.

And at this time of year, over the holidays, this becomes evermore evident, either for others or for ourselves as we have time to reflect on our lives as the year draws to a close.

The reality is that we’re living in a time of true disconnection right now.

While technology seems to connect us more than ever, the screens around us disconnect us from nature, from ourselves, and from others. Wi-Fi alone isn’t enough to fulfil our social needs – we need face-to-face interaction to thrive as well. And technology should be enhancing our connection to others, not replacing it.

And there was a time in my life years ago when I had loads of people around me and yet I felt lonely. So, it is not always about isolation.

With Covid, we are at home more than ever and some of us are more outgoing than others and that is totally normal. Anyone who has done a Myers Briggs assessment will know their most preferable style.

So, our inherent need for human connection doesn’t mean that every introvert must become a social butterfly. Having human connection can look different for each person.

I invite you to think about how you can create more connection with people to suit you, your preferred lifestyle and circumstances. And also, how can you actually help people who may be feeling lonely?

Here are some examples: –

• Is there a club or outdoor group activity they could join safely?
• Are there any old friends they’ve lost touch with and could reconnect?
• Is there a cause they care about that they could support?
• How practical is it to go out for a coffee / tea and read a paper or book safely in a communal space?
• Have they introduced themselves to their neighbours?
• Asking someone for help when they need it is absolutely OK. Who could they ask?
• Do a random act of kindness!

If anyone is feeling lonely, they are certainly not the only one and they don’t have to live in isolation. We live in a world with over seven billion people, and we all need connection.

As you know, I have created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help people discover their natural and most effective communication style. And if you know anyone who you think would benefit, if you could share the link with them that would be great:

Find out more about The Communication Code

“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy
because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless
and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that” 
~ Robin Williams ~

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. To book a COMPLIMENTARY CLARITY SESSION, Click HERE
www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

Last week, I sent you the Thought for the Week which was all about “Do you ever feel invisible?” And even if you don’t feel that way, the chances are that you know at least one person who does.

By now, you will have got used to virtual meetings on platforms like Zoom, Teams etc.

And by now, you will have a good idea of how effective these meetings are as opposed to those that are face-to-face.

Let’s face it, we would not manage without these platforms now and in many cases, these will replace face-to-face meetings forever because they are so convenient and save us time travelling to and from meetings.

And we know that with face-to-face communication, research has found that the impact of our body language is 55%, our tone of voice 38% and our words just 7%.

So, how does this work then when we are having virtual meetings? I would love to hear your thoughts on this, so do let me know.

We know how important our body language and tone of voice are, so how do we continue to build trust and rapport with people virtually and have the same impact we would like to have face-to-face?

There are some very simple and subtle things we can do and I would like to share this with you: 7 Game-Changing Tips to Build Rapport with Others on Zoom

I am sure you already know some of this, but if you get even one tip that makes a difference then it’s worthwhile!

Also, I am launching my new Group Coaching Programme; The Communication Code in January.

Who is this for?

It’s for established Business Owners and Leaders who are great at what they do, and they know that, but may struggle to feel seen, connect and have the impact and success they deserve.

This programme provides what you need to become a better communicator.

Over 25 years, I have developed The Communication Code as a communication specialist. As an entrepreneur and leader, I have worked with people just like you and understand the struggles many have.

It’s not that they are a failure, or an “imposter” – it’s because they haven’t yet learned how to revive their innate ability to communicate with openness and authenticity.

For this reason, I created The Communication Code, an empowering Group Coaching Programme designed to help people discover their natural and most effective communication style.

For instance, there’s a big difference between the person who makes an impact and has people lining up to work with them, and the person who leaves a meeting feeling like no one took them seriously.

In my programme, participants will learn how to interact with others in a warm, confident way that builds trust and rapport and attracts the right kind of clients.

And the beauty of this programme is that I show them how to do this in their own unique style, so no more feeling awkward or stressed!

Learning how to communicate authentically is a vital part of this process, as we can’t build a successful business without the trust and respect of our clients, staff and stakeholders.

I show participants how to reset their communication style, giving them a renewed, genuine confidence that will result in successful outcomes for all.

And because this is the first Group Coaching Programme of its kind, I am offering a very special price for the first cohort, which I am limiting to 12 people. Places on this 8-week programme will normally go for £997 but as this is the first one, I am offering a special price of just £697, which presents amazing value for what you get …

Find out more about The Communication Code

“THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS AND WITH OURSELVES
ULTIMATELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES”
~ ANTHONY ROBBINS ~

As always, I will leave that with that thought.

With best wishes,
Korinne

P.S. To book a COMPLIMENTARY CLARITY SESSION, Click HERE

The younger generation will tell you that being invisible is a good thing in computer games like Minecraft!

But what if someone feels invisible in real life?

You may have heard about how we can develop this sense of “wounded self” – it’s a view of ourselves that we let affect us based on how our parents, teachers, friends, family members, and strangers treated us in the past.

Imagine if you were in a situation like this …

You’re in a meeting, crowded room or social event, and you look around. Everyone seems to be talking to one another – perhaps you arrived by yourself or you came with friends. Laughter fills the air, and your self-awareness heightens. You realise that you’re just standing there, and you feel distanced from the rest of the people in the room. You feel as though everyone could walk right through you, as if you weren’t there. You think to yourself, “I just don’t seem to fit in”.

You may have heard of Deepak Chopra, an American author and public speaker? Well, he explained that there are different kinds of invisibility. And if someone is feeling invisible, first, they must acknowledge what they are feeling and what aspect of themselves is being unseen or unheard. For example …

• Are they not feeling heard when they speak?
• Do they feel their opinions are being disregarded or even discredited?

Now, whilst you may not feel like this at all – do you know someone who does? If so, please feel free to share this email with them.

Once people can pinpoint the situations that make them feel invisible, they can go on to do something about it and I can show them how to do that in their own unique way. If you would like to know more, I’d like to invite them, or you, to book a Free Clarity Call with me personally.

If you are feeling invisible, most of what you’re experiencing is the hidden, wonderful person that makes you, YOU! If you have tucked this person away from yourself and others, now it’s time to untuck and embrace yourself.

Don’t confuse visibility with credibility.

Harvey MacKay (1993). “The Harvey Mackay Rolodex Network Builder”

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne  
www.CommunicationCode.co.uk
P.S. Book a FREE Clarity Call HERE

Hello again and I hope you have had a good week.

Last week, I spoke about Gremlins and FOMO and the week before about how we build new skills and habits and put them into practice. 

Expressing ourselves honestly in any relationship is essential to our well-being, whether at work or personally. 

When we feel listened to and understood, we count ourselves lucky because we know how rare that experience is. We reserve our most intimate selves for the people who, along with us, co-create an open space where we feel free to express ourselves and listen without judgment. These relationships, which thrive on open communication, can mean the difference between existential loneliness and a deep sense of belonging. We all long to feel heard, understood, and loved, and clear communication makes this possible.

Sometimes problems arise when expressing how we feel, but it is always worth it to make the effort. In any kind of situation, whether at work, at home with family or elsewhere, successful communication requires some forethought, otherwise we risk blundering through our relationships like the proverbial “bull in a china shop”.

However, at the same time, we don’t want to tie ourselves in knots and pad out our words so we feel stifled and then what we want to say comes out all wrong and confuses the matter further.

The good news is that there are many tools and techniques that empower us to speak our truth clearly and succinctly while building long-lasting relationships in all areas of our lives.

When we speak impulsively, our intent is often overshadowed by the damage that’s done by speaking without forethought.

However, when we speak with purpose, we are able to consciously express ourselves, which elevates the flow and understanding of our conversations and inspires everyone to share from a more genuine place.

With the right expert guidance and knowledge of how to respond more mindfully, anyone can transform the way they engage with others to create deeper, more meaningful connections.

I am so excited to be launching a new online Group Coaching Programme in January that is all about how to communicate with impact so people want to stop and listen to what you have to say. This is called “The Communication Code”. If you would like to know more, please ask.

As you know, I have been helping people in this field for a very long time now and have created this programme with tried and tested tools, tips and techniques. Not only will participants have one-to-one coaching, they will also learn so much from each other because there is added value in having the opportunity to practice what they have learned in a safe environment. As a result, they will have more success in all of their relationships, their business and their life.

So, this week, I invite you to think about your intention before starting conversations. Know what outcome you would ideally like without being attached to the outcome.

Why?

Because being attached to a particular outcome means you are going in with a sense of lack and this disintegrates your personal power and impact.

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.”
– Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart –

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne 

www.CommunicationCode.co.uk
P.S. Book a FREE Clarity Call HERE

I hope you have had a good week.

Last week’s Thought for the Week, was about the Reticular Activating System (RAS) in us humans that is how our brain builds new neural pathways when we learn something new and when we put new habits into practice. You can read my previous blogs HERE

And it is only when we commit to keep practicing and experimenting with new tools, tips and techniques that we can change old habits and form new ones. It usually takes around 10 weeks of consistently doing this that the new become automatic, so we don’t have to think about them as much.

So, I hope if you are learning something new, or changing an old habit that it’s all going well so far and do keep at it!

This week, I had to remind myself of a how my old “Gremlins” can stick their beaks in again when uninvited! You will know what I mean from earlier blogs when I have spoken about these “Gremlins”! If you have no idea what I’m talking about, these are those unwelcome voices that can play in our head that result in self-doubt.

It’s like they are sitting on our shoulder saying things like;

“Who do you think you are!”

“You know you’re no good at that”

“You’re not clever enough do to that!”

And it is these gremlins that can remind us of old outdated habits that used to hold us back and certain triggers can set these off.

For me, this week, an old gremlin was triggered because I’m looking for a house and in Guernsey where I live, and the property market has gone crazy. I was dealing with one agent who regularly invites sealed bids when a few people are interested in a property and this practice has been pushing up the prices.

So, I caught my gremlin saying “You’re going to miss out on getting the house you want and will only get what’s left and no-one else wants!”

Yes, that was my FOMO Gremlin – my Fear of Missing Out that reared its’ unwelcome head and beak!

I won’t go into where that came from but will just say it was from childhood and I am sure that some of you reading this can also relate to that! And, even if we have overcome this and moved on in our life, something can trigger an old gremlin into action.

We just have to recognise it and why it was there at some point in the past and then say; “No thank you, I’m not going there!”, You can even visualise yourself flicking it off your shoulder!

With FOMO though, have you found this can come up from time to time? For instance, with “Black Friday”? or some other kind of special offer that you don’t want to miss out on?

Do you recognise your gremlin when it shows up?

Can you flick it off when it appears?

Can you visualise it as just a fluffy toy without any power over you?

“Life has no limitations except the ones you make!” – Les Brown-

As always, I will leave you with that thought.

With best wishes for your success and speak again soon.

Korinne  

www.CommunicationCode.co.uk

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